[Janet]

Thanks Tink, that's exactly what I have been trying to tell him. That he needs to think positive and about how much better he is going to feel when it's all over and he's had time to heal.

He's heard both sides. Some who have done really well and others who have 'warned' him against having it done. What is wrong with those type of people? It reminds of of how women can be so cruel to pregnant women..ya know? They tell them about all the pain of child birth, squeezing that baby out between their legs and scaring them half to death. Why is that? What is with a simple 'I'll keep you in my prayers and hope you have a quick recovery?'

My son and I felt bad for him, so we went and visited him for a few minutes at work. He seemed a little better, but he's been busy working..so we'll see how he is when he gets home. His feelings are hurt too, because no one from work, not even his boss (who Rick taught how to do body work) has asked him what he found out. I could tell he was ready to cry.

I wish he could find a forum like what we have here (BUT NOT THIS ONE...LOL) so he could vent and get some support. Don't know if he would use it, but you all are a tremendous support to me, no matter what the topic.

I'll know more this evening after talking with him to find out just exactly what he is wanting done before he has surgery. Hopefully my son and I can't help get it done (whatever it is) fast so he can get the surgery done soon. I don't want him to wait.