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Ashley, he sounds so typical of a controling personality. Is he also an alcoholic? That often goes hand in hand.

YOU didn't hurt him! I wish you could believe that. You simply stopped letting him control you... that's not hurtful, it's HEALTHY. He is likely using your families faults (as HE sees them) to make you side with him and take you away from them so he can gain further control. Please don't do it! I have the creeps just reding about him... it's too familiar to how some of the guys at the drug/alcohol treatment center I worked at were. They'd lay on the charm to get their way, then refuse to take responsibility for anything. It's not safe to be with someone like that!

I have to agree with your Mom that he has the potential to become abusive physically in the future. He's already playing mind games to manipulate.

You're a smart lady, please don't settle for this.