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Originally Posted by Tink
Ashley, he sounds so typical of a controling personality. Is he also an alcoholic? That often goes hand in hand.
YOU didn't hurt him! I wish you could believe that. You simply stopped letting him control you... that's not hurtful, it's HEALTHY. He is likely using your families faults (as HE sees them) to make you side with him and take you away from them so he can gain further control. Please don't do it! I have the creeps just reding about him... it's too familiar to how some of the guys at the drug/alcohol treatment center I worked at were. They'd lay on the charm to get their way, then refuse to take responsibility for anything. It's not safe to be with someone like that!
I have to agree with your Mom that he has the potential to become abusive physically in the future. He's already playing mind games to manipulate.
You're a smart lady, please don't settle for this.
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No, actually he doesn't smoke or drink. I think you're absolutely right. I just don't know what to do. If I say something to make him angry like "stop calling me," he will leave work, and come straight to my house. He's done this 2x already. It's difficult. I do not like confrontation, so I try to appease him so he can leave the premises. However, although he has never hit me, he has withheld me from leaving a room when we argue. I never told my mom about it because she would have him arrested in a second.
I don't know how to keep him out of my life. I've already changed my number, I don't want to do that again. I don't want to go thru the restraining order process because that is just way too much drama. How do I get him to leave me alone? Because somewhere in the back of his mind, he thinks that this is just a "little problem" and that we are still together?
Ashley