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{{{Lynne}}} You need to get some help.
It's wonderful that you're caring and willing to help, but it's not fair to you to have to work yourself to the point of tears over it. Obviously I have no clue what your Moms financial situation is, but it sounds to me like she might very well qualify for at least part time in home care, and for that, the less she has the cheaper you'll get it!

Our county has volunteer drivers who will haul the elderly to their dr appointments for free if they meet certain income guidelines. Most people who live on soc sec qualify. Here, you can call the county soc services office to connect with the agency on aging to learn what help she might be eligible for.

I know it's hard to step back, but destroying your own health won't be doing anyone any favors.
Good luck and I hope you're able to find some help.