[DianaB]

Janet, the book that I mentioned in another thread, the Five Love Languages, is one that you should probably read. When I got it I cried through two whole chapters because they really spoke about what I was feeling. Basically it says that there are 5 ways for your spouse to let you know that they love you and if they're not reaching you in the way that you need then you're not feeling loved.

It sounds like your husband, like my own, isn't meeting your needs. My husband is a wonderful man who loves me very much, but my need is quality time, and he fails in that area. When I look back over the years I've always felt that he never had time for me alone. In every other area he's been wonderful, but those things aren't what has made me feel loved. He's reading the book and I'm trying to communicate (my biggest problem, I don't communicate when I'm upset). I'm hoping that things will definitely improve. It hasn't been a very good marriage in my opinion for quite a while, but he didn't see that we had any problems.

I recommend the book only if you and your husband can get together and discuss it. Maybe it will help you to understand what is important to the other and things will improve for you too.