[Lissa]

Wow, I don't know. Since it would seem yall have already had a talk about it my usual (and best) advice of talking about it won't seem to work. This is a problem he's going to have to be mature about. She's you're dog and like you said it's a package deal, and his problem with the pee pads is ridiculous. Maybe he's a bit of a germaphobe and views it as unsanitary. The way I see it this is all him, and he's the one that needs to be mature about it, maybe he could offer to help you give her a bath or something. But from what I've seen and experienced, bottling things up doesn't end well when things eventually overflow.

If you haven't already, I'd sit him down and explain to him that you love your Layla and she's a part of your life and she's going to be a part of your life for some time, and that you don't want this getting in the way of yall's relationship. I'd do it when he's not flustered about it, bring it up when he's calm and collected that way he won't have his emotions getting in the way of hearing what you're saying.

Also this isn't a favorable trait, I know my boyfriend has a bit of a short temper sometimes and even I can't calm him down too well when he's really frustrated and that scares me sometimes. I'm hoping that as he matures he'll get better at it. Same with your guy, he probably just has a bit of maturing to do cause from an outsider's point of view it's a tad bit pathetic on his part that he's letting something like this come between yall.