[AngieDoogles]

My husband has gained a lot of weight since we've been married as well. I'd really like him to lose some of it, mostly because I worry about his health (he has a very bad history of heart disease in his family). He knows that I worry about this, and we try to eat healthy, but he'll eat sweets any time he gets the opportunity, even though we don't keep them in our house very often. It's frustrating.

One thing we used to do was go to the gym together. We played racquetball ALL the time and I did notice that he started to lose weight then. Maybe you and your husband could do something similar? Is there a game or sport that he really enjoys?

I don't think you are a bad person. You can't help whether or not you are attracted to someone. That just happens or it doesn't, you know? But it is important for his health (and your relationship) that he maintains a good weight. Maybe you could tell him how scary it would be for you if he started to have health problems and then suggest ways to reduce that risk. You could also mention that it would make you feel better about your intimate relationship, but be careful...men are very sensitive about this so you'll need to be very gentle with him.

Good luck!