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Judy,
I have not been on much myself lately just busy working. What is nice about this forum is that everyone can vent and express their anger and their happiness. We are a diversed group which make it interesting. We can offer the young ones advice from our experience from growing been there and done that ,and they in turn can offer us the new way of thinking of todays generation. So it is a great mix.
To address your first concern, you are only 60 and your a pretty woman who does not look her age. You should be out there dating, I don't mean the bar scene I am sure that along with us all growing up in NYC you did that. If it is your thing so be it, but I know a lot of women who go on match.com , another one is plenty of fish.com.. yeah what a name lol. They have met wonderful men on these websites. This is the new era of meeting people via the internet, along with caution that should be no problem. Whether you want to remarry or not should not be an issue right now you need a friend to take you to dinner and wine and dine you. We all like to be pampered me to...lol I also have friends who date younger men, my friends are my age 50 and date 40 yrs old. Age is a preference, 60 is the new 50 and you should date men regardless of age factor. If they treat you well that is all that matters, Be he 40 or 70 lol.. thats just my opinion. If the internet is not your thing, go to barnes and noble, or anywhere where they have parents without partners . I have been out of Bklyn awhile now so I don't know where people go to meet others. But get out there and DATE...
As far as your daughter, I don't know why she is treating you this way. You are her mother and the only one she will ever have. I think this creep of a husband is definitely controlling her, she is in a way in his mercy. She should let you into her life for your retired and I know that you would be by her side helping her and helping taking care of your grandkids. I don't know if its right thing to do but I would try to contact his mother or family and ask why her son is shutting you out of your daughter's and grandchildren's lives. Do you think its him?, intercepting the calls , maybe she needs to get help and you have to find a way to get her out of there. I am just trying to understand this. Judy I have come to believe is that whatever goes around comes around. They have children, not to wish bad things on them..
Judy I guess you have tried and there is nothing much you can do. Yes it is awful that your only child is acting this way. She knows your there and there is nothing more you can do at this point...It will hurt yes, but hopefuly it will get resolved....
Sorry for the long post pm me anytime... Good luck! and start mingling lol
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