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RLC12345678 · 10-01-2007, 05:49 PM

Hey Nobella!! Long time, no see! Just wanted to tell you that it is PERFECTLY normal to feel like you are feeling. The 6 months Will and I were engaged were the worst 6 months of our relationship! We fought constantly because we were both SO stressed trying to juggle our relationship, school, moving, graduation, job, family, friends, etc. etc. Our premarital marriage counselor (preacher) also told us that alot of couples fight during their engagment subconsciously because you subconsciously try to push each other away to make sure the other won't leave and that they are there to stay, through the good and the bad, if that makes any sense. I'm not saying that Will & I never argue and fight now after 2 years of marriage, because we definately do, but our marriage is great. Some arguing is healthy. You and your fiance just need to have an understanding that come what may, yall are committed to each other and will be there for each other through all the stressful times and all the good times alike! Just consider this time of stress as a test, because I can assure you that there will be MANY MANY more times like this in your life. Our marriage counselor warned us, and he was absolutely right, that you are going to wake up some mornings and think to yourself, "What the heck did I get myself into?" "Why did I get married" etc. But you've just got to stick with it. That's what marriage and committment is all about.

10-01-2007, 05:49 PM	#9
RLC12345678 4WT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 1,614	Hey Nobella!! Long time, no see! Just wanted to tell you that it is PERFECTLY normal to feel like you are feeling. The 6 months Will and I were engaged were the worst 6 months of our relationship! We fought constantly because we were both SO stressed trying to juggle our relationship, school, moving, graduation, job, family, friends, etc. etc. Our premarital marriage counselor (preacher) also told us that alot of couples fight during their engagment subconsciously because you subconsciously try to push each other away to make sure the other won't leave and that they are there to stay, through the good and the bad, if that makes any sense. I'm not saying that Will & I never argue and fight now after 2 years of marriage, because we definately do, but our marriage is great. Some arguing is healthy. You and your fiance just need to have an understanding that come what may, yall are committed to each other and will be there for each other through all the stressful times and all the good times alike! Just consider this time of stress as a test, because I can assure you that there will be MANY MANY more times like this in your life. Our marriage counselor warned us, and he was absolutely right, that you are going to wake up some mornings and think to yourself, "What the heck did I get myself into?" "Why did I get married" etc. But you've just got to stick with it. That's what marriage and committment is all about. __________________ Rebecca "To whom much is given, much is expected." ~Luke 12:48 Last edited by RLC12345678; 10-01-2007 at 05:52 PM.