Judy, it is very important to feel closure, so you can move on. I am glad to hear that you are passed the stage of guilt, and realizing that you are guilty of nothing. It might be, that her husband, and hes family have made her depandent on them/him, who knows what all they said to her. At times, when we "let it go" it all falls into place.
Hugs to you girl, we love you!
