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katepoet · 10-19-2007, 07:53 AM

Maybe his being late - being able to make that choice - is just as important to who he is as being on time is to you. Otherwise, since is he your best friend and he does love you, he'd obviously support you by being on time.

I read an article once about conflict resolution and negotiation for international issues that said when you have a seemingly unresolvable problem - two sides wanting two incompatible goals - make the pie bigger! In other words, bring more into the negotiations so everyone gets something for whatever they give up.

So what does Brendon need to make it easier to be on time for the most important things to you such as classes? Besides advanced notice, what will lower his stress level or up his happiness quotient so he can add the stress of trying to be on time more consistently?

Maybe also say you'd like to be early by at least 10 minutes so you can pick a good seat and be relaxed with your pen and notebook ready when the lecture starts. If you start aiming for an earlier time for a good reason, maybe you'll at least hit your minimum time.

10-19-2007, 07:53 AM	#5
katepoet Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 992	Maybe his being late - being able to make that choice - is just as important to who he is as being on time is to you. Otherwise, since is he your best friend and he does love you, he'd obviously support you by being on time. I read an article once about conflict resolution and negotiation for international issues that said when you have a seemingly unresolvable problem - two sides wanting two incompatible goals - make the pie bigger! In other words, bring more into the negotiations so everyone gets something for whatever they give up. So what does Brendon need to make it easier to be on time for the most important things to you such as classes? Besides advanced notice, what will lower his stress level or up his happiness quotient so he can add the stress of trying to be on time more consistently? Maybe also say you'd like to be early by at least 10 minutes so you can pick a good seat and be relaxed with your pen and notebook ready when the lecture starts. If you start aiming for an earlier time for a good reason, maybe you'll at least hit your minimum time.