Judy, I to am so happy for you. God has answered your prayers. You have your daughter and your grandchildren back into your life and what a blessing.
I to tell you to overlook your son in law he doesn't sound to well grounded, sometimes in life we have to over look a lot just to make peace. I will give you a for instance, my sis in law older son is married to a woman who does not care for her. They have had words in the past, so to make peace when my sis in law and her daughter in law are in each other's company they act civilized. My nephew has three children, so he visits his mother often and brings the grandkids alone.. His wife allows the kids to go to grandmas, but she does not visit her home. My point here is that my sis in law is happy to see her grandkids, She doesn't like that her daughter in law does not treat her like a mother, but she has accepted it. A choice that has been made for her.
Jessica has told you that he is this way with his own mom, so what can you expect Judy. My advice to you is to treasure your relationship with your daughter and grandchildren. Go spend Thanksgiving with them and do what grandmothers do best.. LOVE THEM... I guess your daughter does not live close by you.
to you my friend