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Originally Posted by katepoet
Sometimes, I think that is one's own personal insecurities shining through, and other times it can be that you are picking up on a real issue - not that he likes her better but that he is not liking you enough or putting you first when the two of you are socializing with others. Being in a relationship takes a commitment that can mean modifying the way we act with friends and relatives so that the relationship comes first.
He may be ready to do that or he may not - but it sounds like it's something you need to bring up. Think about it for awhile and find a way to phrase it so you are not on his case and not making yourself sound insecure, just focus on the level of commitment and how you feel about the interactions with friends and family and their impact on you both.
(I should say that I did have a bf - long term committed - in college who acted like that with my best girlfriend and as soon as he and I decided to take a break for a bit, the two of them hopped into bed - so trust your gut, too!)
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Omg i would just be torn! Well here's the thing. She's not here now, she's away at school. Even when she was here it's not like they would flirt. Actually we were all in the same school dorming together 1st semester and i didn't feel this way at all before cause we were all just friends, we weren't even going out at that time. It's then that he liked me and after we got together. Now it's been like 2 yrs. Well he's great to me, etc. pays a lot of attention to me and is always with me but it's just little things that make me think that like before i would catch him looking at her pictures on myspace, college websites
It would piss me off so i questioned him about it and i think now he prob. does it behind my back. IMO a guy doesn't keep looking at a girls' pictures and page if they don't have some interest in them. Also he would bring up her name a lot like ask about her, who is she seeing, etc. He would just care a little too much. The other day he heard from a friend that she has been sleeping around in college with frat brothers and he told me. I was like okay..how do you know this? He said his friend just told him but it makes me wonder, did he ask about her? Why? What were they talking about? It's so frustrating! And on top of that last night i had another bad dream that i caught them kissing! I was beyond mad in my dream and just losing it. If he ever cheated on me no doubt i would break up with him right away, but he's not that type. But there's just this bad feeling, that i don't know is he likes her or not, like why does he care so much about what she does or who's she's with and keep looking at her pictures
It makes me very insecure