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Gina · 11-19-2007, 08:31 PM

he is not abusive..however he does treat me like i'm a child. he does not drink, do drugs, or cheat on me...although he did say to me that if i can't give him what he needs...well...a man has needs. what is that supposed to mean?????? yes, i should be able to get past this..and work it out. after all, we said vows before God and all of our loved ones. but how can i continue to be so miserable? how can i continue to be treated like a failure and respect those vows? he needs to respect them too! he vowed to be my partner. my companion. my equal. but he isn't. he is above me at all times.

i'm just done. i don't want to fix it anymore. i don't want to keep this up. i just don't want to do it anymore.[/QUOTE]\\

I do believe God does not want anyone to be miserable.. We only get one chance at this life. He is not perfect, no one is and I hope that you tell him this. He mentions all your faults what about his ? Toodles like I said only you know how you feel , I am just trying to help you, I nor anyone else live with this man. I speak from my own experience I was you a few years back, miserable and no longer in love with my husband. I was ready to leave, but I went to counseling myself and we went to marriage counseling together. What happened was that my husband didn't change it was I . My husband comes from a very controlling family and he has issues that he doesn't realize that he has. Its sad. Forward to today we get along , I no longer let him control me and we have a better marriage...

Sometimes you need to go through bad times but once you show him that you will not tolerate it, he will Wake Up! they sometimes need that. I do have two children and he is a good father to them. So I make the best of my marriage, I am a happy person and I work and do things to satisfy me. I no longer listen when he preaches it doesn't work and he lost the battle.

Let me please reiterate you must do what you feel is right, I just see so many of my friends leave their husbands after so many years of being married and now they have regrets..

11-19-2007, 08:31 PM	#5
Gina Donating 4WT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 6,025	he is not abusive..however he does treat me like i'm a child. he does not drink, do drugs, or cheat on me...although he did say to me that if i can't give him what he needs...well...a man has needs. what is that supposed to mean?????? yes, i should be able to get past this..and work it out. after all, we said vows before God and all of our loved ones. but how can i continue to be so miserable? how can i continue to be treated like a failure and respect those vows? he needs to respect them too! he vowed to be my partner. my companion. my equal. but he isn't. he is above me at all times. i'm just done. i don't want to fix it anymore. i don't want to keep this up. i just don't want to do it anymore.[/QUOTE]\\ I do believe God does not want anyone to be miserable.. We only get one chance at this life. He is not perfect, no one is and I hope that you tell him this. He mentions all your faults what about his ? Toodles like I said only you know how you feel , I am just trying to help you, I nor anyone else live with this man. I speak from my own experience I was you a few years back, miserable and no longer in love with my husband. I was ready to leave, but I went to counseling myself and we went to marriage counseling together. What happened was that my husband didn't change it was I . My husband comes from a very controlling family and he has issues that he doesn't realize that he has. Its sad. Forward to today we get along , I no longer let him control me and we have a better marriage... Sometimes you need to go through bad times but once you show him that you will not tolerate it, he will Wake Up! they sometimes need that. I do have two children and he is a good father to them. So I make the best of my marriage, I am a happy person and I work and do things to satisfy me. I no longer listen when he preaches it doesn't work and he lost the battle. Let me please reiterate you must do what you feel is right, I just see so many of my friends leave their husbands after so many years of being married and now they have regrets.. Last edited by Gina; 11-19-2007 at 08:33 PM.