[DianaB]

I wish that I had a magic answer for you, but sadly I don't. We don't have enough information to even begin to answer your question about what to do to help your daughter. The trust between the two of you has disappeared and as a parent, I know, that it's really hard to get that trust back.

At this point communication is what is important. You need to point out to her that ultimately she is responsible for her own life and making her own decisions. Point out that the decisions that she makes may affect her for the rest of her life, such as pregnancy and aids. Tell her as a parent you're trying to do your best even though she may not realize it and you want her to have a happy childhood and future life because you love her and only want what's best for her.

I have kids from ages 33 to 15 so I've dealt with teenage problems. I never had one sneak out in the night because I would have beat them within an inch of their lives. I was one very strict mother! Be firm and be loving! Keep us posted.