[magnolia]

Kimberly,

You are doing firght in my opinion! There was a time (many years ago) where a woman was expected to wait on her husband all the time - but look at the times then - most women didn't work outside the home like the women of today but rather worked INSIDE their own home. It was part of society that after the man came home from work, his wife would be waiting with his proverbial slippers, mixed drink, cigar, and paper. He would then relax while she continued to work to get his dinner ready, fix his plate, and serve it. But not anymore!! We live in a society where both husband and wife work full time jobs to support their families or their hobbies - one should not expect the other to "wait" on them! My boys both know how to wash dishes, load a washing machine (and put laundry soap in it and turn the thing on!), know how to dry the clothes they just washed and what to do with them when they are dry - fold them and put them up!! They can even do some basic cooking, vaccuming, and sweeping! I've made sure I taught them how to do these things so they don't have to depend or expect someone else to do it for them - they are 16 and 13 and I started with them when they turned 12. I have never fixed my husbands plate in over 20 years unless it was something I wanted to do - believe me, he thinks it's a treat if I fix his plate while he's telling me I didn't need to do that, he can fix his own. At family gatherings, my aunts are fixing their husbands plates and have passed this down to their daughters - they USED to say something to me about not fixing Sam's plate but when I would reply, "He's a grown man. If he's hungry, he can fix his own damn plate!", they stopped mentioning it!

Stick to your guns - there's time enough for her to learn things from you but waiting on a man shouldn't be one of them!