[Janet]

I sure wish I had some good advice to offer. Gina's done a really good job. You do need to think it through, because she's right, if you separate, you'll definitely be doing it all then.

Remember too that your husband as worked all day. Don't jump him when he walks in the door. Give him some time to adjust to being home and then just ask him to help do this or help do that.

Men really don't think the way we do..a shame isn't it?...so some of them need to be told or asked nicely to do whatever. The things around the house that are important to us are not important to them. We have to tell them.

As far as the in-laws...don't fight with them, the battle will always be there if you do. There is a big difference in wanting to be right and having respect for them, after all they did something right or you wouldn't have fallen for their son. I always found keeping a small distance and not giving out all information is a great way to keep the family together.