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Originally Posted by Dobie
I agree it's your community - newbies should play by your rules.
However, I have not ridiculed anyone's religion, called anyone uneducated, or rude. Yet when I said that I felt an undercurrent of something going on that was unpleasent (by both older members and newcomers) and I thought it might be better for people to be direct with their feelings, I was told that I think I'm perfect. I probably could have worded it better, but it wasn't meant to be offensive.
Also, I tried to reach out with a thread of my own - talking about something deeply personal to me. For the most part everyone ignore me and I was basically told (although nicely) that nobody was interested in my drama and that I should go to a different site.
I personally liked this site because I thought it offered a group of women who came at life with a slightly different viewpoint from my own and reading how different people think helps me to grow as a person.
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I have a lot I could have added to your thread. A WHOLE LOT. But right now, unfortunately, this forum is not a place where I feel comfortable sharing
anything personal. (I'm not saying it's your fault, just the overall feel of the forum since new people have come and not even tried to fit in but instead made their own cliques and excluded the rest of us except when they want to debate or attack.) This is truly sad because this place has become so special to me and is really the only place I have to talk about issues such as the one your thread was about. The community and atmosphere here might not mean much to the new members, but we "senior members" have time and friendships that are invested in this site. We really do love and care for each other and respect individual opinions and beliefs.
For quite some time now many women from many places and many walks of life have never had a problem getting along here. We've discussed religion, books, politics, relationships, pets, sex and countless other topics and we've always been open and respectful to each other. No member was ever attacked or ridiculed in any way. That's the way we like it and maybe someday the new members will understand the value of the type of community we've built here.