[DianaB]

Since you've already done so much for her I would just get a card to take. Maybe inside offer to hang the fans up or something like that that won't cost you.

You're a mother of older children so I'm sure that you've already learned that they make their own decisions and live their lives the way they want. It's hard to sit back and watch your children make what you feel like might be a mistake. Good or bad the responsibility is all hers.