[Janet]

It sure sound like you're disappointed in her choices. If she can keep the house..job...etc., it will be a great investment. Since you know her history, all you can do is let her go. Kids, no matter how old are never going to learn if we parents help them all the time (not that you do.)

I think you were more than generous with gifts. No one in our families bought anyone gifts when they bought a house...she should consider herself very fortunate to have parents who were able to do that for her.