[Janet]

Diana, I am so sorry this has happened. My heart was aching for you, so I can imagine how much more your heart is aching.

I can understand you wanting something for your children, we as mothers always think of them and how they would feel. Your MIL obviously didn't care that she hurt her son, by saying that. I hope it won't hurt your husband by you not going, but I don't blame you one bit. It would be so hard to feel like you were welcome. I don't like being anywhere I'm not wanted.

You're right though, the estate is only things...maybe your children really don't want anything from her. Are there other grandkids that will recieve somthing? If so, that is a cruel thing for her to do to your kids.

I wish I had some easy thing to say to help you through this, but honestly..I don't. I would be just as hurt as you are.

My in-laws were always civil and nice, but I knew that they really didn't care that much. Not until shortly before each of them passed when they needed me...and I was there for them. Then I felt they cared...because then they knew for sure I did.

I'm here sweetie, if you want to talk.