Janet, Here's a scripture for you:
Proverbs 25:21-23 (New King James Version)
21 If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat;
And if he is thirsty, give him water to drink;
22 For so you will heap coals of fire on his head,
And the LORD will reward you.
23 The north wind brings forth rain,
And a backbiting tongue an angry countenance.
Hang in there girl, and heap on those coals.
