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Originally Posted by teri88
Haley, you sound like such a wonderful mom! Micah is very, very lucky to have you. I'm so sorry that you are unhappy in your marriage, it just sucks! One thing is for sure, if Mike isn't interested in making the marriage work, then nothing you do will save it. It does take two. I feel sorry for him, he is really missing out. I guess you need to sit down and really find out where he is mentally and what he wants to do going forward. I hope you can save the relationship, but I know you will do what is right for you and for Micah, whatever that turns out to be. {{{hugs}}}
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Thanks Terri, i try to be a good mom, Micah is the world to me! He's what is keeping me going today.
As for Mike were going to have a couple of days off, i'll try and talk with him again when i calm down some, really don't feel like talking to him right now. What everyone said here is so true, marriage does and will have its ups and downs, like a yo-yo.. Were just going thru the downs right now, and i know having a child stuck in the middle of this is very stressfull, but one thing for sure we do not argue in front of him, that is my #1 rule in the house and Mike knows it. Cause i did call the cops before and have Mike removed from the house, will NOT put up with that. I have to stop nagging him to, i do everything around the house and it looks like its going to be that way until he wakes up or moves out.
I'm going to make a list this weekend of his responsiblities and mine and hang it on the fridge, that way that should stop some nagging, his list is very small compared to mine. His is
make sure the dogs have food/water before you leave for work ( i do this 1/2 the time)
Take out the garbage ( i do this 1/2 the time too)
cut the grass..
clean up after yourself!
Help with Micah when needed!
This is all i'm asking of him....
You would think this would be an easy list but i even do these things.
You don't even want to see my list... But i hope this helps some.
I'm just going to relax these couple days off, spend the time with my son, hopefully take him to Kennywood if it don't rain.. and go to the pool.
And when i do calm down, i'll have a talk with Mike and see what he wants to do.
and where our relationship stands.