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pope1982 · 07-07-2008, 05:11 AM

Respect is huge, don't hurt just because you are hurting. It is not right to use your mate as a verbal punching bag. Sure they are left standing by your side when the smoke clears but that is not the go ahead to dump all over them. If you need to talk, talking is fine but make sure you are not directing your frustration their way.

Never put your mate in the uncomfortable position of being caught in the middle with issues involving family or friends.

Some men have a harder time expressing themselves in words, don't shut down because you feel like they are hiding something or not putting as much into it as you because they want to share things with you. They admire our ability to put things into words, and wish they could share their thoughts and feelings that way.

Support and talk about dreams for our the future together often.

Cuddle.

Don't forget the inside jokes, you have to have the inside jokes...

Forgive fast and on the other hand, always express how sorry you are when you are the one having the rough day.

Listen to each other. Even if there are no words.

Make first memories together.

Don't put family or friends in the middle of your arguments, it will only get them angry at your mate and your problem (though it may seem like the end of the world at the time) will blow over.

Kiss.

Fair is fair. What is good for one, has to be good for both or it is taken off the table and no deal. IE hanging with the buddies, how to spend the household money...

If it ain't broke, don't fix it. Don't be envious and read magazines or listen to girlfriends wishing for the type of relationship someone else is telling you you should have. Remember your love for one another always and let it support you both through life.

Don't pick at each other. No one is perfect.

Here are a few words of encouragement we are having incorperated into our wedding ceremony:
MARRIAGE JOINS TWO PEOPLE IN THE CIRCLE OF ITS LOVE
~ By Edmund O'Neill ~

Marriage is a commitment to life, the best that two people can find and bring out in each other. It offers opportunities for sharing and growth that no other relationship can equal. It is a physical and an emotional joining that is promised for a lifetime.

Within the circle of its love, marriage encompasses all of life's most important relationships. A wife and a husband are each other's best friend, confidant, lover, teacher, listener, and critic. And there may come times when one partner is heartbroken or ailing, and the love of the other may resemble the tender caring of a parent for a child.

Marriage deepens and enriches every facet of life. Happiness is fuller, memories are fresher, commitment is stronger, even anger is felt more strongly, and passes away more quickly.

Marriage understands and forgives the mistakes life is unable to avoid. It encourages and nurtures new life, new experiences, and new ways of expressing a love that is deeper than life.

When two people pledge their love and care for each other in marriage, they create a spirit unique unto themselves which binds them closer than any spoken or written words. Marriage is a promise, a potential made in the hearts of two people who love each other and takes a lifetime to fulfil.

An excerpt from "The Master Speed" by Robert Frost
Two such as you with such a master speed
Cannot be parted nor be swept away
From one another once you are agreed
That life is only life forevermore
Together wing to wing and oar to oar.

07-07-2008, 05:11 AM	#4
pope1982 Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Baltimore Posts: 673	Respect is huge, don't hurt just because you are hurting. It is not right to use your mate as a verbal punching bag. Sure they are left standing by your side when the smoke clears but that is not the go ahead to dump all over them. If you need to talk, talking is fine but make sure you are not directing your frustration their way. Never put your mate in the uncomfortable position of being caught in the middle with issues involving family or friends. Some men have a harder time expressing themselves in words, don't shut down because you feel like they are hiding something or not putting as much into it as you because they want to share things with you. They admire our ability to put things into words, and wish they could share their thoughts and feelings that way. Support and talk about dreams for our the future together often. Cuddle. Don't forget the inside jokes, you have to have the inside jokes... Forgive fast and on the other hand, always express how sorry you are when you are the one having the rough day. Listen to each other. Even if there are no words. Make first memories together. Don't put family or friends in the middle of your arguments, it will only get them angry at your mate and your problem (though it may seem like the end of the world at the time) will blow over. Kiss. Fair is fair. What is good for one, has to be good for both or it is taken off the table and no deal. IE hanging with the buddies, how to spend the household money... If it ain't broke, don't fix it. Don't be envious and read magazines or listen to girlfriends wishing for the type of relationship someone else is telling you you should have. Remember your love for one another always and let it support you both through life. Don't pick at each other. No one is perfect. Here are a few words of encouragement we are having incorperated into our wedding ceremony: MARRIAGE JOINS TWO PEOPLE IN THE CIRCLE OF ITS LOVE ~ By Edmund O'Neill ~ Marriage is a commitment to life, the best that two people can find and bring out in each other. It offers opportunities for sharing and growth that no other relationship can equal. It is a physical and an emotional joining that is promised for a lifetime. Within the circle of its love, marriage encompasses all of life's most important relationships. A wife and a husband are each other's best friend, confidant, lover, teacher, listener, and critic. And there may come times when one partner is heartbroken or ailing, and the love of the other may resemble the tender caring of a parent for a child. Marriage deepens and enriches every facet of life. Happiness is fuller, memories are fresher, commitment is stronger, even anger is felt more strongly, and passes away more quickly. Marriage understands and forgives the mistakes life is unable to avoid. It encourages and nurtures new life, new experiences, and new ways of expressing a love that is deeper than life. When two people pledge their love and care for each other in marriage, they create a spirit unique unto themselves which binds them closer than any spoken or written words. Marriage is a promise, a potential made in the hearts of two people who love each other and takes a lifetime to fulfil. An excerpt from "The Master Speed" by Robert Frost Two such as you with such a master speed Cannot be parted nor be swept away From one another once you are agreed That life is only life forevermore Together wing to wing and oar to oar. Last edited by pope1982; 07-07-2008 at 05:13 AM.