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pope1982 · 07-08-2008, 09:10 AM

Thank you Judy, we are excited and proud of ourselves to have waited for our wedding day.

I tell anyone who wants to ask how we have made it this far, and still are so in love. We are literally inseparable because we like it that way...

I tell them, marriage is nothing to be rushed into. As I have said so many times before, we have been through the long distance part of it. Growing up together and moving in together at a young age. Family issues... There were definitely times we were more like brother and sister and we could have killed each other.

Of course there have been those hard times, but those are outweighed by happy times, loving moments/gestures and so many memories in nearly 10 years (this October).

This is why I am so thankful to have found a priest who shares our same beliefs. To me, it feels like the perfect joining lol Myself, my husband and our priest.
Normally Catholics frown upon living together before marriage, to them I would ask how in the hell they would expect a fairly new relationship to last?
We moved in together 6 years ago November 5th of this year, and it's scary for me to think of living apart until marriage then dealing with the adjustment of sharing your space with another person as well as marriage. It can be done, but it is so much added stress!
Add to that the number of people with surprise pregnancies like what my sister is going through. She has two children, will be 21 this month. Recently engaged, recently moved in together, with her child from a previous relationship.
The first couple of years were the hardest, I wouldn't trade to be in her shoes for anything

Brad is also 2 years younger than me, so I have waited on him for many things which was fine by me, but some people are not as patient or so I have been told time and time again.

We don't try to change each other, we appreciate each other for who we are and support the other when we do go through inevitable changes on our own.

We have always been told we don't act like we are as young as we are, and I take that as a tremendous compliment. I really do love my life, everything I have experienced has prepared me (as much as possible) and had a huge part in who I am today.

I understand what you are saying about your daughters relationship though, my parents and his have probably felt the same way. It hurts to see anyone you love go through those painful moments. What is the true judge of character is how quickly and well they pick themselves up and try again staring their fears in the face

Sounds like your daughter has a good head on her shoulders and a good man by her side!

07-08-2008, 09:10 AM	#13
pope1982 Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Baltimore Posts: 673	Thank you Judy, we are excited and proud of ourselves to have waited for our wedding day. I tell anyone who wants to ask how we have made it this far, and still are so in love. We are literally inseparable because we like it that way... I tell them, marriage is nothing to be rushed into. As I have said so many times before, we have been through the long distance part of it. Growing up together and moving in together at a young age. Family issues... There were definitely times we were more like brother and sister and we could have killed each other. Of course there have been those hard times, but those are outweighed by happy times, loving moments/gestures and so many memories in nearly 10 years (this October). This is why I am so thankful to have found a priest who shares our same beliefs. To me, it feels like the perfect joining lol Myself, my husband and our priest. Normally Catholics frown upon living together before marriage, to them I would ask how in the hell they would expect a fairly new relationship to last? We moved in together 6 years ago November 5th of this year, and it's scary for me to think of living apart until marriage then dealing with the adjustment of sharing your space with another person as well as marriage. It can be done, but it is so much added stress! Add to that the number of people with surprise pregnancies like what my sister is going through. She has two children, will be 21 this month. Recently engaged, recently moved in together, with her child from a previous relationship. The first couple of years were the hardest, I wouldn't trade to be in her shoes for anything Brad is also 2 years younger than me, so I have waited on him for many things which was fine by me, but some people are not as patient or so I have been told time and time again. We don't try to change each other, we appreciate each other for who we are and support the other when we do go through inevitable changes on our own. We have always been told we don't act like we are as young as we are, and I take that as a tremendous compliment. I really do love my life, everything I have experienced has prepared me (as much as possible) and had a huge part in who I am today. I understand what you are saying about your daughters relationship though, my parents and his have probably felt the same way. It hurts to see anyone you love go through those painful moments. What is the true judge of character is how quickly and well they pick themselves up and try again staring their fears in the face Sounds like your daughter has a good head on her shoulders and a good man by her side! Last edited by pope1982; 07-08-2008 at 09:14 AM.