[HALEY]

Lindsey, you need to boost her self esteam up some, my child hood was bad with an alcohlic abusive dad, and i kinda married a guy like my dad. But not to get into my child hood it wasn't the best and yes i was a very bad child, i did alot of drinking and experiment with drugs which i am not proud of today...
Since then my dad found God and is going back to church again, my husband is kinda finding his way back to reality, after a number of DUI's and me treating to take his son away from him or him ending up in jail..
I was kinda like your friend always in the dumps, low self esteam, but after having my son it really woke me up, i work even harder everyday and spend so much time with my son, playing, reading, taking him for walks, i throw all my energy into that child, he will not grow up in life like i did... and Mike loves him just as much as i do..
Alcohol changes people for the worse, and i'm so glad i got out of that life style and finally Mike is starting to come around again.. Micah changed our lives for the better, are marriage is still rocky, but i'm not putting to much of my time like i should for us. My son needs me now, but we been getting along better. so i just go with the flow for now.
Your friend can't base her life now on the childhood that she once had, mine was terrrible, parents fighting at 2am when my dad got home from the bar, going to school sleeping in class cause we were up all night, i know now that my dad regrets what he did to us and is trying to make up for it by spoiling our children, but the hurt is still there, and yes i did forgive my dad and i let go of the past. and somehow i feel free today.. i blame my hyperness on my dad and my strive for perfection at work/home and my eating disorder somewhat on him. But i have the power to change my life as i did and still working on my issues. and will strive everyday to make a better life for my family Thanks to God. She needs to find the peace within herself and let go of the past and negitive people in her life, i feel so sorry for your friend and her kids will suffer the most, believe everything you do affect a child... just be a good friend to her now
when she needs you..