I can share your anxiety - but I just can't imagine dating again. I will likely lose my dear sweet husband to a cruel illness in a few years (that is if I don't get hit by a bus and go first!LOL), and I cannot imagine dating again. I just can not wrap my head around it. I work in a women's profession and I really prefer women's company to men (except my husband, of course). I've said many times that when my husband is gone, I will never date or be involved in a relationship with a man. I have never been hurt by a man. I love my husband with all my heart and soul - but when he is gone, I just can't see myself ever having a close relationship with another man. Of course, you should never say never......but that's the way I feel right now.
So, I have no words or wisdom at all. I can't even imagine myself in your position. I do hope all goes well and that you find a wonderful companion!!! I can only imagine the stress/anxiety. Hey, maybe it will be great with no pain! That's my wish for you!