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Shada · 10-26-2008, 07:56 PM

Thank you Gayle.
When I wrote those words I was still so hurt and mad over what my sister said to me. I kept telling her she doesn't see or understand what mom does for her. Has always done for her. She truly believes that she was the best mother, and our mother did nothing for her. What a lie. I have begged my mom to 'let them grow up, quit doing everything for them', for when mom is gone, I can't take care of them.. nor would I if I could. They need to depend on themselves. But I have to put some blame on mom, for she has allowed them to use her and keeps taking care of them. I tell her the same thing.. 'just say NO' and she says how??? She feels they need her.. how would they eat? How would they pay their bills?

Then mom tells me how proud she is of me because I am so independant. I am buying my own home.. pay my own bills.. work 40 hours a week. I couldn't tell you the last time I took a day off that wasn't a earned vacation day. I have worked at the same place for 23 years and maybe took 5 days off due to sickness in that time.

My sister is a worthless user and has raised her children to be the same.
It makes me sick.

10-26-2008, 07:56 PM	#3
Shada Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 1,228	Thank you Gayle. When I wrote those words I was still so hurt and mad over what my sister said to me. I kept telling her she doesn't see or understand what mom does for her. Has always done for her. She truly believes that she was the best mother, and our mother did nothing for her. What a lie. I have begged my mom to 'let them grow up, quit doing everything for them', for when mom is gone, I can't take care of them.. nor would I if I could. They need to depend on themselves. But I have to put some blame on mom, for she has allowed them to use her and keeps taking care of them. I tell her the same thing.. 'just say NO' and she says how??? She feels they need her.. how would they eat? How would they pay their bills? Then mom tells me how proud she is of me because I am so independant. I am buying my own home.. pay my own bills.. work 40 hours a week. I couldn't tell you the last time I took a day off that wasn't a earned vacation day. I have worked at the same place for 23 years and maybe took 5 days off due to sickness in that time. My sister is a worthless user and has raised her children to be the same. It makes me sick.