Ughhhh, I am sooooo sick of my hair!!

I have really thick, wavy hair that gets big and frizzy when the weather gets humid. I have tried so many different things on my hair but the only thing that really controls it is gel but it makes it kind of stiff too. I was wondering if anyone on here has suggestions on products that work for curly/wavy hair. I would like something that controls my hair but doesn't make it so stiff. I have tried mousse but it makes my hair kind of big.