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Willow · 10-07-2006, 01:21 PM

I always wanted to be a mom. I had it all planned out! I would get married, have a year or two later, and I would add a baby once every 3 years until I had four kids....YEAH RIGHT LIKE THAT HAPPENED!!!!!

Oh I got married, but two weeks after the wedding we found out we were preggers and so at my first dr appointment a couple weeks after that we figured they would tell us we were about 4/5 weeks along....try TEN WEEKS...I was six weeks preggers when we married....THAT wasn't in the plan! 23 months later baby two arrived and the first wasn't potty trained yet! The best age gap we have is the 2 1/2 years between kid number 2 and kid number 3...kids 3 and 4 are only 19 months apart. I have two in diapers and it is not fun! LOLOLOL

I don't mind that my plan didn't work out as expected. I love all my kids, and have thought about having one more. It is scarey being a parent. You worry all the time, and no one should go into parenting lightly. If you don't think having kids is what you want, then don't do it! Only you can make that decision for yourself. I had kids because I wanted to. Because I wanted to experience life growing inside me and giving them birth. (I know, not the greatest experience, but it was a labor of love everytime!)

I feel like every woman who wants to be a mother should have that chance, and those who don't want children, well that is their right! I have thought about donating my eggs to give a woman who wants to birth her own child the chance to experience that miracle. That isn't for everyone. Some women who can have their own children are happier adopting. It is a personal choice, and it should stay that way.

On the other side of the coin, there are people having children who have no business having children.

10-07-2006, 01:21 PM	#27
Willow Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 258	I always wanted to be a mom. I had it all planned out! I would get married, have a year or two later, and I would add a baby once every 3 years until I had four kids....YEAH RIGHT LIKE THAT HAPPENED!!!!! Oh I got married, but two weeks after the wedding we found out we were preggers and so at my first dr appointment a couple weeks after that we figured they would tell us we were about 4/5 weeks along....try TEN WEEKS...I was six weeks preggers when we married....THAT wasn't in the plan! 23 months later baby two arrived and the first wasn't potty trained yet! The best age gap we have is the 2 1/2 years between kid number 2 and kid number 3...kids 3 and 4 are only 19 months apart. I have two in diapers and it is not fun! LOLOLOL I don't mind that my plan didn't work out as expected. I love all my kids, and have thought about having one more. It is scarey being a parent. You worry all the time, and no one should go into parenting lightly. If you don't think having kids is what you want, then don't do it! Only you can make that decision for yourself. I had kids because I wanted to. Because I wanted to experience life growing inside me and giving them birth. (I know, not the greatest experience, but it was a labor of love everytime!) I feel like every woman who wants to be a mother should have that chance, and those who don't want children, well that is their right! I have thought about donating my eggs to give a woman who wants to birth her own child the chance to experience that miracle. That isn't for everyone. Some women who can have their own children are happier adopting. It is a personal choice, and it should stay that way. On the other side of the coin, there are people having children who have no business having children.