[Marilyn]

Awwww, Judy, so sorry you were put in this situation. I don't begin to know what a grandmother's role should be. I never really knew mine. One died when I was around 2, and the other had a stroke when I was probably 5 or 6 and was unable to speak after that. I'd have probably reacted similiarly to what you did given the same situation. It's hard when you can so clearly see what is happening. We're by nature fixers, and it takes real fortitude to not get involved. I don't know the best answer, however, given your history with Jessie and your SIL, it's probably best to leave it to them and just try to counsel Jessie the best you can to help her find ways to improve the situation, without her getting her feelings hurt. Not an easy task, but well worth trying.
Hugs....(((((((Judy)))))))