[DianaB]

You're certainly dealing with a tough situation, Judy. It's so hard to not say something when the grandchildren are acting badly. When my grandchildren were much younger I often spanked my daughter, Amy's girls, in front of her because I couldn't tolerate them acting disrespectful to their monther. As they've gotten older they know that Grandma doesn't put up with stuff like that and they respect me when they're around.

I think that in your position you could probably calmly say how disappointed that you were in McKenzie's behavior and that you thought that she loved her Mother enough to not be disrespectful. You can pile on guilt and let them know how disappointed you are in them without raising your voice or going on and on about it.

It's tough being a Grandmother!!! Good luck!!