[Marilyn]

Originally Posted by Lindsey

The difference in the shower I think is just that we are from a very small town with a population of 500. Everyone knew us, everyone watched us grow up, so a lot of people like to be able to pitch in or know about a shower to stop by and bring a gift or whatever. One woman who was actually our 4th grade teacher has already volunteered to make up trays meats and cheese and vegetables etc. to snack on during the shower, so basically all I need to do that day is decorate! We only have two stores in our little town, so usually when someone is getting married, donation envelopes are left at the stores with a poster for anyone who knows them and would like to leave a small amount of money instead of buying a gift. It could be our old teachers, librarians, old coworkers, or anyone who doesn't feel close enough to the bride to show up at the shower, but still wants to give something
I was also planning on mailing invitations, but the best my friend could do was give me phone numbers, so that's what I was left with!
That's really sad about your daughter's friend My friend and I have managed to stay very close in the past 7 years not even living in the same province. Even though we usually only see each other maybe 2 or 3 times a year, we still finish each other's sentences and have such a good time every time we're together. We've been very close friends since we were 6 years old, so we have a lifetime of memories together. I hope we continue to stay close!

The explaination of the shower makes sense. I have no concept of such a small town where everyone knows everyone and it's natural to do things differently. She sounds like a true friend who will be there for you and you for her after all the dust settles.

Enjoy the experience. Sounds like you have a good plan skipping the other shower.