You are all 100% right.
The first thing I did when yesterday was to ask Marcia (my cleaning person) to call her boss so that I could make arrangements. That was even before I found out that they were bringing the kids over. Then, when I found out that I was getting the kids, I came on here to vent.
Then, my friend called me and she told me about the roller coaster ride she had to go on, just to get her son to come over to his 94 year old grandmother's to connect her new TV converter box. We were laughing at how it is to have grown children. She said it would have been easier to just buy her mom a new TV and get her cable service, but try teaching a 94 year old woman how to work all those things. Her mom still drives! She is adorable.
I think you are so right Gina. He doesn't want to do it. I have to see what kind of work these guys do, and if they ever show up! You know how workers can be. If they seem okay, I will let them do all of the work. I was already planning on using the excuse you wrote about! We're on the same wavelength - maybe it's a Brooklyn state of mind.
I am also now never obligated to ask Steve to do any work for me. This is a good thing. It is never good to get involved with family in that way, unless you are certain they will do whatever for you. I need to find a good handyman now, and that's that.
What really saves me from blowing up is that I so enjoy the kids when they are here. I had such a good time with them yesterday. They only stayed about 3 or 4 hours, and it took me 20 minutes to straighten up. I do have to go over the floors, but that's not their fault. These floors are terrible, but the kids are so great! Jessie also knows what is going on, and I know it is difficult for her, but she has to keep her hubby happy. As long as she and I know what is really going on, I can live with it. She has to keep him happy. That's the kind of marriage she has. He's so good to her and the children, it is okay. He's good to me too in his way. I do love him.
Wahoo! The guy just called me and I asked him about hanging the pictures, etc. He's going to work it out for me.
FREEDOM ROCKS!!!