I am so sorry Diana, I can sooooo relate to this, it's all in who you know. Sad but true in most sports programs these days. Heck it's even like this in the elementary sports programs now. I am so glad my boys have graduated, they well two of them were so into sports. I used to get sooo mad too
Give your wonderful daughter a big hug and tell her that you know she is "The Best". I wish I had more advice for ya, it's really hard. I hope she can keep a positive attitude. I know it breaks your heart for her!