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Old 08-29-2009, 03:44 AM   #14
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Originally Posted by Janet View Post
The only thing you can do....is if you are in her presence when she says something appalling or disrespectful....call her on it instead of letting it go.....I always ask..."why would you say something like that?"
Janet, that is an excellent suggestion! "Why would you say something like that?" is throwing the ball back into her court. And depending on your tone of voice, if not an "accusing" voice, but a questioning voice, then it might be interesting as to the answer you get! I really like that - and I have used it in the past in somewhat similar situations - actually I wanted to tell the person to "SHUT THE F UP", but "Why would you say that" is much less inflammatory!!!
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