Public Schools

[JJJ]

I don't know if I'm being over protective or what but public schools are getting on my nerves. I get calls because my boy forgot to put his belt on. But I get a note saying he hasn't been turning in his homework (and I had to go digging for that note). I also get called from the principle office because my boy made a girl cried because he didn't want to speak to her ( i don't believe in making my boys hang out with people they don't want to hang out with).

And then today I get a pink slip from my oldest saying his assign SAC (like detention but during class time) for not attending detention. I pick him up from detention so how can they tell me he wasn't there. He told me that he didn't know he was suppose to sign in and out since it was his 1st time and no one told him. He got detention because he forgot his ID at home and he did call me from grandmas so I can give him his ID but I was already on my way to work. Even if I was home I don't see why I should drive to drop his ID. I knew they were going to scold him or take points off or things like that to punish them. I thought detention was too big of punishment for forgetting his ID ONCE but ok so be it. But then to take him off class because someone forgot to informed new people in detention to sign in is just ridiculous. I wrote them a letter saying I do not approve of my boy attending SAC when I know he attended detention. And if they want me to sign the pink slip to resend me one saying his attending SAC for not signing in at detention.

I will likely go up their and have a talk with them but I want to know from your point off view, am I wrong? No wonder my kids dread going to school. I want them to learn not be treated like if their in bootcamp. How can they learn when their treated like robots and not like individuals.

[judy]

This sounds awful Jessica! Public education can be really bad. I would recommend that you go to their school, and make yourself known to the administration, and any teachers who are giving your boys a hard time. I was a teacher, and I know from experience that a parent must be the advocate for their children. It stinks, but that's the way it is. If you don't get what you expect for your kids, keep talking to the admin. Remember, it is the squeaky wheel that gets greased!

[2tiredmom]

I don't think you're wrong. I'm with Judy. Make it known that your there and won't be bullied either. I'm so glad my kids are out of high school. It just seems to be getting worse instead of better. Good Luck. I will keep you in my prayers.

[Janet]

I see it too Jessica, being a bus driver. I'd take Judy's advice and let them know who you are and what you expect from them also, not just what they expect from you and your boys. I'm just glad mine is out of school and I don't have to deal with that stuff. Good luck!

[DianaB]

I agree.....Go in and talk to them. Remember you're an adult so don't let them intimidate you. I've found that usually when I go and talk to the teachers they usually back down. It's easy to get on to a child but when it's a parent they are as intimidated by you as you are of them.

I agree that things are changing in the schools. I had four kids go through and it wasn't until the last one that I went in and talked to several different ones. Be a mother hen and don't back down!!!

[JJJ]

Thank you for your support. It is getting worse over here and I'm trying to keep my cool. Those people think they have so much authority

All I hear from teachers all the time how the best students are the ones with a stay at home mother. They should know not everyone has that advantage and even if I was a stay at home mom I wouldn't want to do everything for my boys. How will they learn to be independent just to please the teachers. And then I always get the look when I go meet the teacher. I look extremely young so I don't even get their undivided attention and they ignore my question to talk to the older mother. I have to raise my squeaky voice and then I sound rude .

And those teachers need to go back to school themselves. Most of my kids have had bad teachers and I wasn't allowed to switch them. I don't want them to hate school at this young age. It's just not fair.