Do Husbands Get In The Way Of Frienships?

[rivermom]

There really is no greater bond then the friendship between two women. I find myself placing priorities to make sure I make time with my girlfriends. But....have you ever found that at times your friends husbands get in the way??

I have a close friend who lives down the road from me. For the first time in my life I have expierenced that her husband actually becomes jealous of her's and mine friendship. He "forces" her in many ways to stay with him whether it be giving her "honey do lists" or "guilt trips".

My friend actually at times has to lie just for us to hang out or whatever and I find this so odd. He has "run off" her other girl friends but being the stubborn butt that I am I refuse to allow him to take that action towards me.

Her and I always have a blast together but it amazes me all the games she has to play just to have some "girl time" together.

She even makes me "suck up" to him at times which is NOT in my nature so we can be friends. I don't agree with this but I am willing to do this to maintain our friendship.

I feel sorry for her, she's a wonderful lady but married to such an insecure and jealous man.

But....This proves to me the bond between girl friends!!

Have any of you ever dealt with this type of behavior before??

[Mandy]

Yes i have dealt with that before. This one friend and i were really close, we used to take the train to Berlin to get away from it all for weekends, we used to go do some fun shopping and dinners, we used to have a blast!!

After she and her husband got divorced she met another man, well that was it!! She had no life anymore, after meeting him several times, i got the feeling that she was affraid of him.
I asked her straight what the deal was with him, she admitted he was very jealous!! A few months later i found out he was beating her up. Her daughter told me that when he drinks he gets angry and starts fighting with her mother.
When i asked her about it, she said it was no big deal, and skipped the topic.

They moved to another part of Holland, i now only have occasional email contact with her, because she's not "allowed" to use the computer when he's not around, so he sits with her while she types my mails, probably to watch what she tells me.
After she makes phone calls he checks the numbers she's dialed.

Sad but true

Yes...i have a friend who i used to be very close to, we were up each other's butts all day when our kids were in school but for the last four years she has been with a man who is very jealous of who she hangs out with. he monitors her phone calls, emails, etc. and she lets him do it so i've decided that if she would rather be treated like that and if it makes her happy then i'm happy for her-although if i could i'd tell him to grow up and learn to trust her or leave her the hell alone! we are still friends but no where as close as we used to be because of his selfishness which makes me sad.

[Janet]

I've never had that happen with a girlfriend. But I was the one backing away for my husband. My best friend and I have been bestest friends for over 25 years. After her divorce (before our friendship) she was always wanting me to do something or go somewhere. I hadn't been married very long and felt guilty leaving to have fun, spending money while hubby was home. He never objected, it was just me. Thank the good Lord he gave Linda patience..once I learned I deserved time out then everything worked. I honestly don't know what I would do without her, she means the world to me.

[Kimberley]

My husband realizes that friendships are very valuable. He's never ran any of my friends off.

[ginab]

they want you all to themselves...jealous bastards

[Mandy]

I would never allow my husband to come between me and my friends, but he knows how much good friends mean to me, and he respects the time i spend with them.

[Amber_lv]

My husband is actually very understanding i don't get to go out much because i have small kids but i do constantly talk on the phone with my best friend and he doesn't mind we do go out sometimes but she is single so i just hang out with her but we have been friends for 14 years and it hasn't changed since i got married.

My husband tells me I don't need friends they just get you in trouble. But he does not tell me I can't have my friends from YT and now this site, he does get a little mad at me when he wants to talk and I'm online.