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01-22-2007, 06:46 AM | #1 |
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Afraid ???
Got a couple things I just wanted to share. Smoking is not allowed in our house, so usually we go outside or hubby goes to the garage. The other night I went outside to get something out of my van and my husband is sitting there and hurries and puts something in his pocket when I enter the garage. It was just a handheld solitaire game. I asked him why the heck he tried to hide it ....he didn't really have an answer. Now I know I get on him from time to time, but he made me feel like he was afraid of me or something. My gosh, it was his game, why should I care what or where he plays it??? I just thought this was so strange!
The next thing is when my son and I went to town last night to get some groceries we were talking and it ended up about his father and how much he smokes...ALOT!! Then Ricky told me he's worried about his drinking too! I didn't really think he was drinking (beer) very much at all. He never drinks in the house, but he said the trash can in the garage is full of beer cans. Now Ricky wants me to talk with him about it. I guess I will just tell him his son is worried about him....I don't want him to think Ricky was "telling" on him...he was just concerned. Why can't life get easier instead of harder? Guess I need to pay more attention...huh?
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01-22-2007, 07:59 AM | #2 |
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I don't know how your sons & husbands relationship is, but maybe your son should talk to him. You can coach your son on what to say, & it might mean more coming from him. My father & I never had a good relationship (he was gone a lot), but now I wish I would of tried harder to talk to him. Now I'm just terrified & very uncomfortable talking to him, it might help your son & husbands relationship is he tried to work this out with him alone.
If I were you though I would have a talk with your husband over hiding the game. That just seems really odd. |
01-22-2007, 09:13 AM | #3 |
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Thanks, the "boys" have a great relationship. I just didn't know if a 16 year old needed to talk with his father about his bad habits. I don't think hubby would listen to him any more than he would me when it comes to this subject. I know I'm going to go ahead and speak with him and then if our son wants to talk with him he can.
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01-22-2007, 09:29 AM | #4 |
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I agree that your son should talk to him. I had a similar situation going on with my dad. My dad had a massive heart attack in 2004 and almost didn't make it. The doctors told him he needed to start eating right and exercising. Well, he didn't obey the doctor's orders. My sisters and I would always tell my mom how concerned we were about it. Well, one day we convinced my mom to say something to him about it and my dad got REALLY REALLY mad at my mom. He said that he was a grown man and could do what he wanted and my mom didn't need to be telling him what to do, ect. and he didn't talk to her for like 3 days. Well, after some time passed, my sisters and I were still concerned but my mom siad she would never again say anything to him about it bc he just gets pissed and defensive. So, my sisters and I decided to say something to him. Well, my dad listened to us. I mean, how can he get pissed at his daughters for being concerned? He can't! And you know what, he has started eating right and exercising. We told him that we wanted him to be around to play with his grandchildren, and he listened. He would not listen to my mom, but he listened to us.
If your hubby is already hiding things from you (i.e. the game), then if you talk to him he may think you are just trying to "control" him or boss him around or whatnot, like he feels you might be doing now since he is hiding things from you. But I honestly think if your son approached him, he would listen to him and really take what he was saying to heart, just like my dad did.
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