Devasted...

I know I haven't posted in a long time but I'm devasted tonight & needed to get it out somewhere...hope you ladies don't mind.

My husband told me tonight that he wants a divorce. I told him I didn't & that I wanted to work on us more but he says he's done & to lazy to work on us anymore so he just wants out. We were married 4 years in February & we have a daughter that will be 2 in May. I'm in shock. I can't quit crying & I feel like I'm going to throw up. It hurts so bad to have the one person you love so much tell you hurtful things like they aren't in love with you anymore.

He is also in the military & so we are stationed at a base. I'm not from here so I will be moving back home, which is going to be hard. I also don't work right now & am in school still. This is the weird part...we are still going to live together until I'm done with school in July. I have no idea how that's going to work. I just don't know what to do. I guess I'm looking for advice on how to stay strong through this because I feel like I'm about to lose it. Thanks for listening (or reading).

[Mandy]

Jessica, im so so sorry you have to go thru this! Im glad you turned to 4wt, we are here to help you thru this. You can come and talk to us anytime!
Take it easy, and stay strong for your little girl.
Its sad that your hubby doesnt want to work on your marriage anymore, i do hope he has a change of heart, and will be willing to sort this out.
Hugs to you girl. You are not alone on this!

[Janet]

I am so sorry Jessica. I know your heart must be breaking. Please be strong and keep your head about you so that you can continue to take great care of your little girl. See if you can talk to your Pastor or someone who can give you great advice. You're going to be going through a lot of different emotions...so please take time before you make any decisions.

I know the military can be rough sometimes with couples and families. Maybe see if he will go to counceling too if not, go alone.

I'll keep you in my prayers...let us know how you are...okay? We care.

[Marilyn]

Jessica, so so sorry to hear you are going through such a though time. These ladies have given you good advice. Take care of yourself and you little girl. Find a good counselor who you can talk to that will help you work through this.

I'll be praying for you and your daughter. ((((((((Jessica)))))))

Jessica I am so sorry you are having to go through this very hard time, please be strong for your daughter she will need you more then anything right now. Hopefully you and your Husband can talk and work all of this out but you know everyone is here for you!!!

[AngieDoogles]

Jessica, I am SO sorry that things are difficult for you right now. I know that you will be strong and this will only make you stronger in the end. I do hope your hubby will see what a huge mistake he is making and will change his mind. If you are supposed to live together until July, then there is still time for him to change his attitude. But I agree with the others, counseling would definitely be a great thing to do. There are so many emotions involved in marriage and especially divorce. We are here for you anytime you need support or just to vent. *Hugs*

[highlans]

Originally Posted by Jessica

I know I haven't posted in a long time but I'm devasted tonight & needed to get it out somewhere...hope you ladies don't mind.

My husband told me tonight that he wants a divorce. I told him I didn't & that I wanted to work on us more but he says he's done & to lazy to work on us anymore so he just wants out. We were married 4 years in February & we have a daughter that will be 2 in May. I'm in shock. I can't quit crying & I feel like I'm going to throw up. It hurts so bad to have the one person you love so much tell you hurtful things like they aren't in love with you anymore.

He is also in the military & so we are stationed at a base. I'm not from here so I will be moving back home, which is going to be hard. I also don't work right now & am in school still. This is the weird part...we are still going to live together until I'm done with school in July. I have no idea how that's going to work. I just don't know what to do. I guess I'm looking for advice on how to stay strong through this because I feel like I'm about to lose it. Thanks for listening (or reading).

Jessica am so sorry to hear this, you say your husband is in the military will they not help you whilst you are going through this. One thing about our military here they would certainly help the familys if they are going through seperation. For example have trained people to talk with, help with your money, houseing my husbands ex wife was helped very well during there divorce. Go to your husbands C.O. and ask. Good luck.

[AngieDoogles]

Originally Posted by highlans

Jessica am so sorry to hear this, you say your husband is in the military will they not help you whilst you are going through this. One thing about our military here they would certainly help the familys if they are going through seperation. For example have trained people to talk with, help with your money, houseing my husbands ex wife was helped very well during there divorce. Go to your husbands C.O. and ask. Good luck.

This is great advice! Good luck, Jessica.

[Mandy]

Great advice, i hope they have the same support system there to help! Good luck Jessica!

I don't know if they do or not. I don't even know where to look & my husband will be no help in that area cause he doesn't care.

[Mandy]

Originally Posted by Jessica

I don't know if they do or not. I don't even know where to look & my husband will be no help in that area cause he doesn't care.

Jessica, im sure someone on here will know how to go about it. Hang in there, and keep checking in here, bump this thread if you have to, or make a new one.
Dont sit back and do nothing, take action now.