Feel like a bad Mom!

[Janet]

I took my son to work today to derouge corn. Well, we sat there and the bus didn't show up. The bus for the detasselers came and he and one other 'derouger' went up to the bus to find out what was going on and then he started coming back to the van. The bus driver (boss's wife) was waving him to come back and I asked him what was going on. He said he didn't want to detassel.

I told him she was waving him back and that's what he signed up to do in the first place. I said he needed to go today and then find out if he would be derouging anymore. He just looked at me and said.."okay, ONE DAY." He doesn't like detasseling at all and I feel bad that I made him go and spend the day being somewhere he doesn't want to be.

I sure hope he has a good day anyway, it only lasts until 2:30 PM. I just feel bad.

[AngieDoogles]

Aww, Janet! You are not even CLOSE to being a bad mom!!! I'm always so impressed with your love for your son and how wonderful you treat him and how close the two of you are. You are an amazing parent and he is SO blessed to have you in his life, even if sometimes he has to do something he doesn't want to do. Don't all children have to do things they don't want to because a parent makes them? That's just part of life. I think you do a great job. I wish there were more parents like you out there!

[Tink]

Janet, when he's an adult and his boss tells him to do something he really doesn't want to do he will think back to today. He will do what's asked of him, and his job will be secure because he didn't stomp off refusing to comply. The most important lessons we teach aren't always the fun ones. But that sure doesn't make you a bad mom for doing your job.

When he gets home I'd be sure to tell him how proud you are that he was grown up enough to do what needed to be done. I'd keep my guilty feeling to myself though... no one else but a Mom would feel guilty for expecting him to have gone.
You're doing him a favor by teaching that early.

I think you deserve a pat on the back. He has friends... he needs you to be his Mom and you're doing a great job of it.

[DianaB]

Originally Posted by Tink

Janet, when he's an adult and his boss tells him to do something he really doesn't want to do he will think back to today. He will do what's asked of him, and his job will be secure because he didn't stomp off refusing to comply. The most important lessons we teach aren't always the fun ones. But that sure doesn't make you a bad mom for doing your job.

When he gets home I'd be sure to tell him how proud you are that he was grown up enough to do what needed to be done. I'd keep my guilty feeling to myself though... no one else but a Mom would feel guilty for expecting him to have gone.
You're doing him a favor by teaching that early.

I think you deserve a pat on the back. He has friends... he needs you to be his Mom and you're doing a great job of it.

Well said!!!!!

[Forgivenmom5]

Janet you are always a good mom!!!

[Marilyn]

Janet, you are not bad. Tink and everyone else here is right on!!!!

BTW, I still don't get why you derouge and detassle corn where you are. We just plant, let it grow and pick it when it's dry enough. Strange custom where you are.