Divorces

[Tiramisu]

I'm getting really paranoid about divorce "rubbing off" at my office. I had three guys in my group - Rudy, Jamie, and Terry. Rudy got a divorce in August, after 22 years. Terry is in the middle of getting a divorce, after 14 years. Now, Jamie, who recently transferred from my group, called to tell me that his wife is threatening divorce, after 28 years, and he's trying to get her into counselling. Jamie feels that it will probably end in a divorce, but says he'll do everything to make it work.

Rudy's wife, Nancy, never worked outside the home and raised two daughters. When the youngest graduated HS, Nancy told Rudy that she didn't feel she had been properly compensated for her years of duty to him and the girls. He drug her to counselling, but her mind was set. The girls (21 and 19) are at odds, thinking they have to pick a parent to side with. One's sided with Mom and one with Dad and the arguing continues as they are both at the same college. He said the holiday was terrible.

Terry's wife, Heather, has worked, but jumps from one job to another, with Terry doing most of the raising of their two sons (11 and 8). She took the boys and moved to an apartment and Terry's trying to hold onto the house. They have not settled on splitting assets to finalize the divorce.

Jamie's wife, Julie, has never worked outside the home and raised their son and daughter, while travelling and living abroad with Jamie on his job. All Jamie does is come to work. Julie does the yardwork, makes his lunch and dinner, laundry, etc. - EVERYTHING. Jamie recently got a promotion to a high management position and Julie feels he's working too much and not spending enough time with her.

I might be extra nice to Harold tonight!

[DianaB]

I've heard that "divorce" is contagious. That's too bad about all three of their marriages.

The last couple, Jamie and Julie, need to read the book, The Five Love Languages, because the wife is basically saying that she needs quality time from her husband. The book was great help for my husband and I when we hit a bump. I was saying the same thing as Julie.

[judy]

They have all been married for a long time. Too bad their marriages are ending, especially with children involved.

In my opinion, wife #1 is a bit of a psycho, wife #2 sounds like she jumps from man to man as well as from job to job, and wife #3 should rethink this. I hope they can work it out. She just wants more of him.

[Janet]

Judy...I just love your opinion on this. You crack me up!!

[judy]

Originally Posted by Janet

Judy...I just love your opinion on this. You crack me up!!

Can you imagine if I were a therapist? Just tell it like it is....How much fun that would be.

Example: Patient "I have a problem. I'm a sex addict."

Me, as a therapist "HaHaaHaHHHaaaa. (after I stop laughing). Get over yourself honey. That's just a stupid excuse to cheat."

[Tiramisu]

Judy, you would never make a penny, nobody would want to hear that truth!