Oh no!

[judy]

I knew it was coming, but I heard the words that Grandmothers don't want to hear!

Jessie took Brandon and Kassidy down to Brandon's old pediatrician in Staten Island. He just has not been feeling well for a while, gets very painful rashes, stomach aches, his legs hurt, and so on. Medical care is not so great up here.

I called Mackenzie at about 4:30 today. She can't miss school, and stayed home with Steve. I asked her if she was lonesome and should I come over? She said "No." She told me that she was just fine, and I know she is.

But she said "No!" She has never said no to me coming over to visit her! They all reach an age where this is natural. I do not like it!!!

I think next time, I just won't ask her. I'll just go!!!

[gja1000]

Oh Judy! I feel your pain! My sweet granddaughter just turned 14 and she just isn't the same sweet little girl I held, rocked and enjoyed for all those years. It started about age 12, she only wanted to come over about 1/2 the amount of time she used to come over. Then at 13, it dropped to about 1/4 of the time. Now she rarely has time to come visit - and sometimes when I go over there, I don't even see her - she's gone with friends. It is so different and it feels so weird.

I'll tell you what I'm doing right now, I'm staring at a little note she left me. I have a hutch on my computer desk and she was over here a few weeks ago - surfing on my computer of course, LOL - and she used a marker to write on this little stickie note, "I (heart) my Mimi, Luv Abi" She taped it to my computer hutch so it is about eye level.

I'm telling you I would not take that note down for any amount of money. I look at it every time I'm sitting at my computer and I understand that message is how she really feels, even though "Mimi" has had to take a backseat to volleyball, boys , girlfriends, football games, etc etc. She and I have a very good relationship, and I understand she is being a normal teenager, but it feels so weird to not be the center of her world, as I was for about 12 years!

So Judy, I feel your pain!

[DianaB]

I can understand too. The only grandchildren that I seem to see much of are Dae Lynn's little ones, Karlie and Dean. The others are so busy with sports, school, and homework. They don't need a sitter anymore so I don't even see them when Mom and Dad are busy.

I have some notes too that the girls have left when they're here and like you, Gayle, I don't take them down. I love looking at them.

[JJJ]

I'm not a grandma yet but I need to send you lot's of XOXO your way.

[paula1961]

I also know how you feel Judy! My Lexi is 13 and into sports, boys friends and the other "non related to Nana stuff". It hurts but that is just how it is. Oh how I miss that little girl.

[Blueyes]

Our grandkids do outgrow us, but eventually they come back around. Of course it's not like when they were little. Or sometimes they move away and RIP YOUR HEART OUT!!!!!!