Guess She's Going To Florida

[Janet]

At least that is her plan. Not sure I can write this well enough because I'm so angry about it.

I was cleaning out kitchen cabinets on Sunday afternoon and called Mom to see if she wanted to come watch (instead of her just sitting at home alone). She told me my younger brother, the one that helped her get the car, was coming over to show her how to lay the seats down so she could haul stuff. I didn't say anything except for her to have a good time.

She called me later to say he showed her how and that she didn't know if she would have enough room for all her stuff (that she usually takes to Florida). Again...I didn't say anything...I knew it would lead to an argument.

From what I understand...my younger brother's wife will be taking her. It won't be fun for Mom because Judy is always saying mean things to her, like "you're not a very good grandmother" and numerous other things. I just hope they've thought it out well enough that if they get her down there.....she'll need to get home and they'll need to take care of that too. I haven't spoken with my brother I just know it will lead to a big blow-out and I really don't want to deal with him.

Mom also said that if no one will take her....she'll drive herself and she would absolutely do that. She won't listen so I'm not going to argue with her. I'm just exhausted trying to cope with everything. I wish I would have found a job in Kansas.....lol....I would have just stayed there.

[JJJ]

Oh Janet I'm sorry your going through some rough times with your mother. I hope she makes the roundtrip safe. XOXO

[Janet]

She won't be leaving until the 1st weekend after New Year's...so maybe by then there will be a plan, but with Mom....it's either her way....or no way.

[paula1961]

I'm so sorry Janet! Do you think there might be a chance that she could change her mind between now and New Years? I know you worry so much about your Mom! I totally understand! I sure hope it all works out for the best.~Hugs~

[DianaB]

Sorry....I know that you get so fustrated with your Mom. Is your brother blind.....can't he see all the health problems that your Mom has been having? Slap him up side the head a couple of times for me......if you get close enough!!! LOL I'd make sure that he knows that he's responsible for her if she has problems while in Florida. I'd be furious too!!!!!

[gja1000]

Oh absolutely, I agree with Diana. You make SURE that he KNOWS he is responsible for any problems/issues that arise while she is in FL - and there surely will be problems. If there isn't, then I'll be a monkey's uncle . If he knows that he's going to have to go down there to help her when she gets in trouble, then maybe he will have second thoughts about taking her down there (his wife taking her down).

That is just insane! BUT, your mom is bound and determined to go, so what will be, will be. Just make it known to everyone that you absolutely are opposed to the trip and that you will not be helping in any way if she gets into trouble. I know that sounds heartless, but it is not. Your mom is being completely unreasonable, and your brother is crazy, stupid or both.