You're Right Gayle...FAMILY GRRRRR!!!!

[Janet]

I am so angry right now I could spit!!!

My husband went to town to put a new door knob on at my mother's house. While in town, he stopped by where our son works and my older brothers works there also and just happened to be working.

He started drilling my husband about what's going on with Mom's house, have I got it painted, has Rick helped, have we had anyone looking to rent it yet...on and on and on. Rick didn't answer his questions, just kind of blew them off. He's asked Ricky before, but we don't discuss it all with Ricky and Ricky really doesn't care...lolol.. so I don't think he listens that much and can't answer Jerry's questions.

He then went on to say he found a website that gave all the information, taxes, assessed value...etc. about the houses in our county and gave Rick the impression that he was pissed when he saw that I bought it for the appraised value which was considerably less than the assessed value and that he knows all about all our other properties too. What kind of rats arse do I have for a brother???? I had no idea he acted this horribly.

So now the rule is: if Ricky is asked anything about the house by either of my brothers, he is to say "They don't tell me what goes on there". If they ask Rick he is to say "That's Janet's house, you'll have to ask her". AND then if that doesn't make them mind their own busines and they ask me...I'm telling them that "it's my house now, why do you need to know?"

I was beginning to miss them a bit, haven't talked or seen them in weeks, but not now. I don't need the drama. Hope they have a nice life. Mine is getting better and better.

[Blueyes]

I guess if he was worried about how much you paid for the house, he should have checked the value sooner Gosh, it's all said and done...they should just drop it. Seems like they just look for something to pick on you about!

[Janet]

I know...once the estate closing is completed in April...they can go their way and I'll go mine! I just know Mom has to be so disappointed that he's so worried about how much money he'll get or not get. Everything was spelled out in the Will that if any of us kids wanted it or the house in Florida, we could buy it at the appraised price. My brothers didn't want it, signed a document from the attorney saying so and now he wants to be an a$$.

[JJJ]

They need to mind their own business. I would be pissed off too. I think you have a good plan going on.

[gja1000]

Any time money is involved, some people's true colors come out. That's what happened in my case too, when the family thought I screwed up, and it might cost them some money, they were all over me. You tell your greedy brother that selling property to family at assessed value is just the way it works. I can't imagine trying to make extra money off family. That just isn't right. When my brother bought our family home, that's exactly what he paid, assessed value. I wouldn't have even dreamed of asking him to pay more.

[DIANE W]

Janet.... I am so sorry this is happening, its hard enough what has happened with losing your mum and all, dealing with that is difficult enough.

I think from reading your posts, this is pretty typical of the behaviour you have seen from your brothers, and were even expecting it.

All my advice would be is try not to raise to their bait, i dont think whatever you tell them will stop them from thinking you have somehow got the property cheap, and done a dirty deed on them. It is sad but they are just seeing MONEY MONEY MONEY, and they dont know the hurt they are causing, even though you are mad at them, i think it is hurting you too.

Family are sometimes very hard to deal with, they will think what they want no matter what you do or say - take comfort in that soon April will be here and it will all be sorted out, then maybe your contact with them will only be for nice family celebrations.

Take care, and good luck with everything.