It's Been A Rough Day!

Janet · 01-08-2007, 04:41 PM

At 10:30 this morning my sister-in-law called to say my MIL wasn't doing very well in the nursing home. I told her I would meet her there. On my way, she called me again and said that Hospice had been called in. I knew this couldn't be good.

When I got there, my MIL was not able to breath very well. She has cancer and is also on oxygen. She kept crying and trying to scream that she didn't feel good. She can't hardly scream at all, because she is so weak.

I tried to comfort her as best I could until my sister-in-law could arrive. She told me to tell all the kids that she loved them and that she thought she was going to die. She didn't know from one minute to the next that I was there and the same thing, when my sister-in-law arrived. She would try to talk and say things that made sense and the next few words would be so far from sense, you wonder how she came up with it.

Her stomach and chest are swelling, because of the fluid build up and it really is just a matter of time. At least we think...... They called us in twice a year and a half ago thinking she wasn't going to make it, but she totally surprised us all. She recovered so well and enough that we have been able to bring her to our house for the last two Thanksgiving Dinners.

This time....we're not so sure. She is afraid....and afraid of dying. I am so sad for her. She has truely has been a great mother-in-law all these years and I don't want her to suffer anymore.

I guess what I am asking is that you pray for my Mother-in-law. That IF it is her time to go, that her fears will vanish and that she will not suffer or be in pain. I know what a great group of ladies we have here and the power of prayer. So if you could do that for me....I would really appreciate it. This is so hard, but while I'm asking.....could you please say a prayer for me too, I really feel I need it.

DianaB · 01-08-2007, 05:51 PM

I'll be praying for your MIL and you and your family. You might want to consider having your pastor come and visit with her. She might not be feeling secure about where she'll be spending eternity and a pastor will know the right words to say to her. If you're not comfortable with what he's said to her then find another pastor or friend that's good at dealing with people who are on their deathbed. My family will be lifting you all up in prayer. Keep us posted on how she's doing.

Marilyn · 01-08-2007, 05:59 PM

Janet, Diana is giving good advice. We will definitely remember you and your family in our prayers. This is a tough time that we must all go through. We will be thinking of you.

Tink · 01-08-2007, 06:12 PM

My prayers are with you both.
HUGS

lynne b · 01-09-2007, 02:49 PM

Janet i am sorry you are going through this. I will be thinking and praying for your family.
lynne

Janet · 01-09-2007, 04:10 PM

I went to the nursing home this evening to see my MIL. She hasn't been awake at all today. She is just slowly declining and filling up with fluids. It's really hard to tell how long she'll be with us, only God know that, but it really doesn't look like it will be very long.

She looked so helpless lying there. She had no idea we were there. This is so sad....and heartbreaking. She is not in any pain...

01-08-2007, 04:41 PM	#1
Janet Moderator Donating 4WT 18K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 21,624	It's Been A Rough Day! At 10:30 this morning my sister-in-law called to say my MIL wasn't doing very well in the nursing home. I told her I would meet her there. On my way, she called me again and said that Hospice had been called in. I knew this couldn't be good. When I got there, my MIL was not able to breath very well. She has cancer and is also on oxygen. She kept crying and trying to scream that she didn't feel good. She can't hardly scream at all, because she is so weak. I tried to comfort her as best I could until my sister-in-law could arrive. She told me to tell all the kids that she loved them and that she thought she was going to die. She didn't know from one minute to the next that I was there and the same thing, when my sister-in-law arrived. She would try to talk and say things that made sense and the next few words would be so far from sense, you wonder how she came up with it. Her stomach and chest are swelling, because of the fluid build up and it really is just a matter of time. At least we think...... They called us in twice a year and a half ago thinking she wasn't going to make it, but she totally surprised us all. She recovered so well and enough that we have been able to bring her to our house for the last two Thanksgiving Dinners. This time....we're not so sure. She is afraid....and afraid of dying. I am so sad for her. She has truely has been a great mother-in-law all these years and I don't want her to suffer anymore. I guess what I am asking is that you pray for my Mother-in-law. That IF it is her time to go, that her fears will vanish and that she will not suffer or be in pain. I know what a great group of ladies we have here and the power of prayer. So if you could do that for me....I would really appreciate it. This is so hard, but while I'm asking.....could you please say a prayer for me too, I really feel I need it. __________________ To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. ECCLESIASTES 3:1

01-08-2007, 05:51 PM	#2
DianaB Moderator Donating 4WT 13K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Kansas Posts: 16,069	I'll be praying for your MIL and you and your family. You might want to consider having your pastor come and visit with her. She might not be feeling secure about where she'll be spending eternity and a pastor will know the right words to say to her. If you're not comfortable with what he's said to her then find another pastor or friend that's good at dealing with people who are on their deathbed. My family will be lifting you all up in prayer. Keep us posted on how she's doing. __________________ ´¨) ¸.•´¸.•´¨) ¸.•*¨) (¸.•´ (¸.•` ¤ Diana Baker ✞ You and I are friends....... Always remember that if you fall I will pick you up...... After I stop laughing!!!

01-08-2007, 05:59 PM	#3
Marilyn Donating 4WT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: South Texas Posts: 4,907	Janet, Diana is giving good advice. We will definitely remember you and your family in our prayers. This is a tough time that we must all go through. We will be thinking of you. __________________ Marilyn If anyone would like a free Bible Study CD or book entitled "Searching for Truth", PM me with your mailing address and I'll send you one. "And you shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free." John 8:32

01-08-2007, 06:12 PM	#4
Tink Donating 4WT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Rural Wisconsin Posts: 3,707	My prayers are with you both. HUGS __________________ 'A simple way to take measure of a country is to look at how many want in.. And how many want out.' England 's Prime Minister Tony Blair'

01-09-2007, 04:10 PM	#6
Janet Moderator Donating 4WT 18K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 21,624	I went to the nursing home this evening to see my MIL. She hasn't been awake at all today. She is just slowly declining and filling up with fluids. It's really hard to tell how long she'll be with us, only God know that, but it really doesn't look like it will be very long. She looked so helpless lying there. She had no idea we were there. This is so sad....and heartbreaking. She is not in any pain... __________________ To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. ECCLESIASTES 3:1

01-09-2007, 02:49 PM	#5
lynne b Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Indiana Posts: 614	Janet i am sorry you are going through this. I will be thinking and praying for your family. lynne

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