Depression?

AngieDoogles · 03-05-2007, 08:56 AM

Have any of you women ever dealt with depression? I've struggled with periods of pretty severe depression since I was a teenager. Sometimes it'll go away for a long time, years even, so it's not like it's always a big factor in my life. It's just that when I do feel down, I feel so helpless. It has nothing to do with outside situations; my life could be PERFECT in every way and I could still feel sad. Last month I dealt with this and I can't understand why. I didn't eat anything for four days (other than half of a kid's lasagna on V-Day). I have a wonderful husband and family and there's no reason I should feel depressed. And I get SO down that I'm afraid I might end up doing something that would really hurt my family, especially Brendon (hubby). I don't want anyone to know, specifically my mom, and I definitely don't want to talk to a counselor. I'm not comfortable with that kind of thing at all.

I was just wondering if anyone here has dealt with something like this and if you have any advice. Thank you so much!

rivermom · 03-05-2007, 09:10 AM

Please realize you are not alone in this. Many many and I say again, MANY people suffer through depression throughout their life. It's normal and can be anything from situations in your life, food/diet, hormone imbalance, etc.

I myself have struggled on and off for many years. I have skeletons in my closet and it took me along time to sort out my feelings and find the best way for me personally to deal with it.

As you, when the world is fine around them still find things just not right. There are helpful tools out there. Could be as simple as medicine from the doctor, changing your diet, your excercise routine, etc. Or...possibly there is some underlying issue that is buried deep inside that needs attention.

Just don't feel alone or isolated and realize there is so many help options out there okay?

highlans · 03-05-2007, 09:14 AM

I personaly have not suffered from depression I dont think!! I did suffer with post natal depression but managed to get through that with out medical help. My mother on the other hand has had a life time of depression she had a very bad nervouse breakdown when I was about 15 ( am now 50 ) in them days there was very little help, it is still very clear in my mind how she was allways laying on the floor crying, I missed a lot of school as I was afraid to leave her but with my dads help and medication she got through that. Years later she saw a counselor and over the months re built her life and now in her late seventy's still takes meds but she is a lot better. I will say it may be of help to have a chat to a counselor if you do not like it stop but it could help. Good luck xx

DianaB · 03-05-2007, 09:58 AM

There's a depression that goes along with lack of sunlight and it is the end of winter. I can't remember the name for it but maybe a good dose of sunlight will help lift your depression. It's certainly cheap and worth a try.

Gina · 03-05-2007, 02:15 PM

I have suffered with depression at one time, but never anything real serious where I needed medication. I think women at one time or another experience depression. They say that if it last longer than a few weeks and it interfers with your everyday rountine you sound seek counceling.

Like Sheryl mentioned there is nothing to feel ashamed of, or isolate yourself. I think it is better to speak to your mom or a good friend if you dont want to seek help at the moment. You do need to talk to someone , like Diana mention the winter blues get people down to. Women tend to get depressed more so than men, please talk with someone and we are always here for you...

AngieDoogles · 03-05-2007, 03:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Gina

we are always here for you...

Thanks guys! I really appreciate all of your helpful advice and information, as well as your support. I just wanted to reiterate that I am NOT feeling depressed right now. It's an on again/off again thing that happens every once in a while. It just scared me this past time because it was more severe than normal. I feel just fine more than 90% of the time.

You may be on to something, Diana. I'm not sure if it happened at the same time or not, but the weather has warmed up and I'm feeling better. Maybe it's connected. However, I also have "skeletons" like Rivermom from SO long ago, so it could just be those issues popping up again. I get a really strong desire to write bad memories down when I'm depressed, so maybe that's therapeutic in some way?

Anyway, thanks again everyone! You guys are awesome!

03-05-2007, 07:41 PM

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Originally Posted by AngieDoogles

Thanks guys! I really appreciate all of your helpful advice and information, as well as your support. I just wanted to reiterate that I am NOT feeling depressed right now. It's an on again/off again thing that happens every once in a while. It just scared me this past time because it was more severe than normal. I feel just fine more than 90% of the time.

You may be on to something, Diana. I'm not sure if it happened at the same time or not, but the weather has warmed up and I'm feeling better. Maybe it's connected. However, I also have "skeletons" like Rivermom from SO long ago, so it could just be those issues popping up again. I get a really strong desire to write bad memories down when I'm depressed, so maybe that's therapeutic in some way?

Anyway, thanks again everyone! You guys are awesome!

I have also dealt with serious depression. Not since I have had my son (he is 2) but that may be because I have been on anti-depressants for 2 years! It has helped me out so much. If you ever need to talk, I will honestly be here for you! I know how you feel! I havent been depressed in a very long time, but when I was, boy was it bad. When I was 18 I was even suicidal. I thank the Lord I am not that way anymore!

cindy0721 · 03-05-2007, 08:29 PM

maybe it's just a chemical imbalance....

rivermom · 03-06-2007, 11:18 AM

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Originally Posted by DianaB

There's a depression that goes along with lack of sunlight and it is the end of winter. I can't remember the name for it but maybe a good dose of sunlight will help lift your depression. It's certainly cheap and worth a try.

Oh I believe this one for sure!! It is amazing how much "well being" the sunlight gives to people. Every year millions suffer from winter time blues. I know personally I do for sure.

Thanks Diana for this reminder of a possible cause to depression. I completely forgot about it when I posted earlier.

Gotta love that sunlight!!

AngieDoogles · 03-06-2007, 06:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by rivermom

Oh I believe this one for sure!! It is amazing how much "well being" the sunlight gives to people. Every year millions suffer from winter time blues. I know personally I do for sure.

Thanks Diana for this reminder of a possible cause to depression. I completely forgot about it when I posted earlier.

Gotta love that sunlight!!

I could definitely be the sunlight thing because I've never really paid attention to what time of the year I feel depressed, but if it is, I think it would only be a part of it. (It doesn't happen every year...) I think it has more to do with the "skeleton" thing. There are some pretty major events in my life that I've only told my mom and my husband about...

If I start to feel sad again, I'll definitely take note of the time of year and the amount of sunlight. Thanks!

Mandy · 03-07-2007, 12:05 AM

I really do believe the weather plays a huge role in our moods, and feelings. When it's rainy, and miserable, it affects me more. In summer i feel like doing things, and going out, i even notice people smile more when the weather is nice. In winter it's hibernation time for me.
Angiedoogles, those skeletons are nasty things, if you want to talk about anything at all, just know you can, anytime!

pope1982 · 03-06-2008, 02:20 PM

I used to have serious depression in my teenage years. It is no fun, feels like you are drowning in a black hole and no one can save you.

Honestly, if these things you don't talk much about are eating at you so badly, no matter how much it hurts to speak the words, you need to let it out. It's like a poison you are dwelling on. And I also relate to understanding it seems hard to trust someone, or that you don't want to complain or burden anyone with your issues. Been there too!

I've learned that expressing myself and being very upfront has made me such a happier person. I used to be so shy, I was miserable.

Embrace, reflect and move on from the things that you've been through and survived in your life, they've help mold you into the beautiful woman you are today

AngieDoogles · 03-06-2008, 04:52 PM

I just wanted to thank everyone for your sweet replies. I feel so much better now than I did last year when I started this thread. Feb. of 07 was one of the most difficult times in my life and I really wasn't sure at first if I was gonna make it through or not, but I did and I'm a lot stronger now because of it. I recently went back and read the journals I wrote during that time and it's hard to believe how down and hopeless I felt. Since then I've really "decluttered" my life. I now have friends who don't cause drama, but are instead supportive and encouraging, and truly just fun to be around. Small changes like that have really made a huge difference in the quality of my life. I still have down times, but nothing like that anymore, thank goodness!

Thanks to all of the ladies here at 4wt who are always able to put a smile on my face, no matter how bad I feel or what is going on in my life. You guys are awesome!

pearl · 03-06-2008, 04:55 PM

didn't realize it was a hear ago angie!!! happy to hear things are better. i'm all for that decluttering and non-drama, supportive friends.

AngieDoogles · 03-06-2008, 04:58 PM

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Originally Posted by pearl

didn't realize it was a hear ago angie!!! happy to hear things are better. i'm all for that decluttering and non-drama, supportive friends.

That's okay!

I think I get down in the wintertime. Seasonal depression maybe? It wasn't nearly as bad this year though. I was away from 4wt for a while cause I didn't want to be a burden, but I'm back to my old self again. This year was nothing compared to last year!

03-05-2007, 08:56 AM	#1
AngieDoogles Donating 4WT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 6,509	Depression? Have any of you women ever dealt with depression? I've struggled with periods of pretty severe depression since I was a teenager. Sometimes it'll go away for a long time, years even, so it's not like it's always a big factor in my life. It's just that when I do feel down, I feel so helpless. It has nothing to do with outside situations; my life could be PERFECT in every way and I could still feel sad. Last month I dealt with this and I can't understand why. I didn't eat anything for four days (other than half of a kid's lasagna on V-Day). I have a wonderful husband and family and there's no reason I should feel depressed. And I get SO down that I'm afraid I might end up doing something that would really hurt my family, especially Brendon (hubby). I don't want anyone to know, specifically my mom, and I definitely don't want to talk to a counselor. I'm not comfortable with that kind of thing at all. I was just wondering if anyone here has dealt with something like this and if you have any advice. Thank you so much!

03-05-2007, 09:10 AM	#2
rivermom Donating 4WT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Tontitown, Arkansas Posts: 2,475	Please realize you are not alone in this. Many many and I say again, MANY people suffer through depression throughout their life. It's normal and can be anything from situations in your life, food/diet, hormone imbalance, etc. I myself have struggled on and off for many years. I have skeletons in my closet and it took me along time to sort out my feelings and find the best way for me personally to deal with it. As you, when the world is fine around them still find things just not right. There are helpful tools out there. Could be as simple as medicine from the doctor, changing your diet, your excercise routine, etc. Or...possibly there is some underlying issue that is buried deep inside that needs attention. Just don't feel alone or isolated and realize there is so many help options out there okay? __________________ ~_/> , /\/\ ,,, Sheryl When I grow up I want to be a horse whisperer!

03-05-2007, 09:58 AM	#4
DianaB Moderator Donating 4WT 13K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Kansas Posts: 16,069	There's a depression that goes along with lack of sunlight and it is the end of winter. I can't remember the name for it but maybe a good dose of sunlight will help lift your depression. It's certainly cheap and worth a try. __________________ ´¨) ¸.•´¸.•´¨) ¸.•*¨) (¸.•´ (¸.•` ¤ Diana Baker ✞ You and I are friends....... Always remember that if you fall I will pick you up...... After I stop laughing!!!

03-05-2007, 08:29 PM	#8
cindy0721 Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Lone Star State Posts: 389	maybe it's just a chemical imbalance.... __________________ Cindy " My mechanic told me, "I couldn't repair your brakes, so I made your horn louder."

03-07-2007, 12:05 AM	#11
Mandy Donating 4WT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Who cares! Posts: 4,587	I really do believe the weather plays a huge role in our moods, and feelings. When it's rainy, and miserable, it affects me more. In summer i feel like doing things, and going out, i even notice people smile more when the weather is nice. In winter it's hibernation time for me. Angiedoogles, those skeletons are nasty things, if you want to talk about anything at all, just know you can, anytime! __________________ Many people will walk in and out your life, but only true friends leave footprints!

03-05-2007, 09:14 AM	#3
highlans Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: london uk Posts: 462	I personaly have not suffered from depression I dont think!! I did suffer with post natal depression but managed to get through that with out medical help. My mother on the other hand has had a life time of depression she had a very bad nervouse breakdown when I was about 15 ( am now 50 ) in them days there was very little help, it is still very clear in my mind how she was allways laying on the floor crying, I missed a lot of school as I was afraid to leave her but with my dads help and medication she got through that. Years later she saw a counselor and over the months re built her life and now in her late seventy's still takes meds but she is a lot better. I will say it may be of help to have a chat to a counselor if you do not like it stop but it could help. Good luck xx

03-05-2007, 02:15 PM	#5
Gina Donating 4WT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 6,025	I have suffered with depression at one time, but never anything real serious where I needed medication. I think women at one time or another experience depression. They say that if it last longer than a few weeks and it interfers with your everyday rountine you sound seek counceling. Like Sheryl mentioned there is nothing to feel ashamed of, or isolate yourself. I think it is better to speak to your mom or a good friend if you dont want to seek help at the moment. You do need to talk to someone , like Diana mention the winter blues get people down to. Women tend to get depressed more so than men, please talk with someone and we are always here for you...

03-06-2008, 02:20 PM	#12
pope1982 Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Baltimore Posts: 673	I used to have serious depression in my teenage years. It is no fun, feels like you are drowning in a black hole and no one can save you. Honestly, if these things you don't talk much about are eating at you so badly, no matter how much it hurts to speak the words, you need to let it out. It's like a poison you are dwelling on. And I also relate to understanding it seems hard to trust someone, or that you don't want to complain or burden anyone with your issues. Been there too! I've learned that expressing myself and being very upfront has made me such a happier person. I used to be so shy, I was miserable. Embrace, reflect and move on from the things that you've been through and survived in your life, they've help mold you into the beautiful woman you are today

03-06-2008, 04:52 PM	#13
AngieDoogles Donating 4WT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 6,509	I just wanted to thank everyone for your sweet replies. I feel so much better now than I did last year when I started this thread. Feb. of 07 was one of the most difficult times in my life and I really wasn't sure at first if I was gonna make it through or not, but I did and I'm a lot stronger now because of it. I recently went back and read the journals I wrote during that time and it's hard to believe how down and hopeless I felt. Since then I've really "decluttered" my life. I now have friends who don't cause drama, but are instead supportive and encouraging, and truly just fun to be around. Small changes like that have really made a huge difference in the quality of my life. I still have down times, but nothing like that anymore, thank goodness! Thanks to all of the ladies here at 4wt who are always able to put a smile on my face, no matter how bad I feel or what is going on in my life. You guys are awesome! __________________ "Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover." ~MT

03-06-2008, 04:55 PM	#14
pearl Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Colorado Posts: 207	didn't realize it was a hear ago angie!!! happy to hear things are better. i'm all for that decluttering and non-drama, supportive friends.

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