First Grade Girl....

Janet · 03-16-2007, 04:53 AM

I have a first grade girl that rides my bus. She's a cute little redhead, but is being raised by morons. She lives with her aunt, mother and her aunt and mother's step-father, whom she calls Dad.

These girls (aunt and mother) walk the county roads in search of men who will take them into the woods and well, let's say they are not hunting for mushrooms. None of them work and the place they live in smells from the road. It's horrible. They have had welfare and the Sheriff called on them many times.

Anyway, I finally had to 'write-up' this little girl. Yesterday she hit a fellow student twice and this morning gave a boy the 'finger.' I just don't know what I'm going to do with her. I know it's not her fault, but I can't have her acting that way on the bus. I'm trying as gently as I can to lead her in the right direction, but with her family's influence most of the time...it's an up hill battle.

I told her the next time she did these nasty things, I would have to write her up and send her to the office. She was a little afraid this morning. I hated having to do it, but she needs to understand those kind of actions will not be tolerated.

Oh, and she is also the girl that told a couple of boys on the bus that she wanted them to unzip their pants so she could see their pee pee. Can you believe she is being raised this way? It breaks my heart.

AngieDoogles · 03-16-2007, 05:32 AM

Wow! That really is heartbreaking. It's awful that she has to grow up in that kind of environment...

I'm so proud of you for trying so hard to make a positive impact in her life. Most people wouldn't even give her the time of day because of the situation she comes from. I'm glad she has you in her life...even if it is only a a few minutes every day. Good job, Janet!

Tink · 03-16-2007, 07:20 AM

Janet, you're such a caring soul to want to help this child. It's just wrong how some are forced to live. I hope something is done while there's still a chance to make a difference for her. SO sad!

Bless you for trying.

rivermom · 03-16-2007, 08:36 AM

Janet - You are doing the right thing by not accepting her behavior during your presence. This is the responsible thing to do under the situation.

Plus you trying to help her is positive and holds probably a stronger influence then you realize or give yourself credit for.

It's very unfortunate that she is subjected to such an upbringing as she is. It sounds like she definitely needs some better role models in her home life.

highlans · 03-16-2007, 10:02 AM

Sorry but how old is first grade?

AngieDoogles · 03-16-2007, 11:34 AM

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Originally Posted by highlans

Sorry but how old is first grade?

1st graders are six to seven years old.

Mandy · 03-16-2007, 01:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Janet

I have a first grade girl that rides my bus. She's a cute little redhead, but is being raised by morons. She lives with her aunt, mother and her aunt and mother's step-father, whom she calls Dad.

These girls (aunt and mother) walk the county roads in search of men who will take them into the woods and well, let's say they are not hunting for mushrooms. None of them work and the place they live in smells from the road. It's horrible. They have had welfare and the Sheriff called on them many times.

Anyway, I finally had to 'write-up' this little girl. Yesterday she hit a fellow student twice and this morning gave a boy the 'finger.' I just don't know what I'm going to do with her. I know it's not her fault, but I can't have her acting that way on the bus. I'm trying as gently as I can to lead her in the right direction, but with her family's influence most of the time...it's an up hill battle.

I told her the next time she did these nasty things, I would have to write her up and send her to the office. She was a little afraid this morning. I hated having to do it, but she needs to understand those kind of actions will not be tolerated.

Oh, and she is also the girl that told a couple of boys on the bus that she wanted them to unzip their pants so she could see their pee pee. Can you believe she is being raised this way? It breaks my heart.

Its a SHAME there are kids out there that have to grow up in that kind of environment!!

04-25-2007, 04:38 AM

Hi I am new her today and just read your post....It is just terrible the way some parents bring up there children these days! And people wonder why the jails are so overcrowded and that there are all kinds of kids in gangs and stuff. It all starts at home. What a shame, and I really feel for you for having to deal with this on the bus. My mom was a school bus driver for 25 years and I would monitor on her bus of "troubled" kids. Its unbelievable some of the stuff you see and hear. After monitoring for a few years.....that was it for me. I had to get out of it...I never EVER wanted to be near a school bus again. God Bless You! Good luck.

Tami

05-21-2007, 04:08 PM

Oh, Janet, this story just broke my heart. This poor little girl, honestly, getting the attention of getting in trouble may get her the help she needs.

I have a kindergartener and a 1st grader, and honestly was horrified that this girl has actual knowledge of these things.

This is so horrible, some people shouldn't be allowed to raise children. Poor child.

Janet · 05-22-2007, 05:37 AM

Just saw on the news last night that 2 kingergartners (in Indianapolis) were caught in the bushes doing 'sexual' things. It didn't elaborate. They did say it wasn't the first case of kindergartners being caught in the Indianapolis school system. I just can't believe it.... they are in KINDERGARTEN!!!

AngieDoogles · 05-22-2007, 07:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Janet

Just saw on the news last night that 2 kingergartners (in Indianapolis) were caught in the bushes doing 'sexual' things. It didn't elaborate. They did say it wasn't the first case of kindergartners being caught in the Indianapolis school system. I just can't believe it.... they are in KINDERGARTEN!!!

Wow, that's horrible!!! There's something really wrong when something like that happens...

judy · 05-22-2007, 08:15 AM

When I taught younger kids, they weren't sexually active, but now I hear that in NYC, it's terrible - the things they do and what comes out of their mouths!

They're only children - this is directly from their home environment, and all of these groups yelling about the use of certain words, political correctness, etc. aren't even beginning to address the real issue. Where are our values? I know my kids, who I loved, and who were nice kids, if they found a dollar, they immediately kept it. I would never do that and they teased me about it, but I hope some of my old-fashioned values rubbed off on them.

They got to know my values really well and how much I loved them. I think they learned something from that, because they treated me so well. What was funny was that they thought I was "cool." Actually I very old school with my values.

I really do worry about them. Society is not in a good place right now and they don't have it easy.

blowry · 03-18-2007, 05:44 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Janet

I have a first grade girl that rides my bus. She's a cute little redhead, but is being raised by morons. She lives with her aunt, mother and her aunt and mother's step-father, whom she calls Dad.

These girls (aunt and mother) walk the county roads in search of men who will take them into the woods and well, let's say they are not hunting for mushrooms. None of them work and the place they live in smells from the road. It's horrible. They have had welfare and the Sheriff called on them many times.

Anyway, I finally had to 'write-up' this little girl. Yesterday she hit a fellow student twice and this morning gave a boy the 'finger.' I just don't know what I'm going to do with her. I know it's not her fault, but I can't have her acting that way on the bus. I'm trying as gently as I can to lead her in the right direction, but with her family's influence most of the time...it's an up hill battle.

I told her the next time she did these nasty things, I would have to write her up and send her to the office. She was a little afraid this morning. I hated having to do it, but she needs to understand those kind of actions will not be tolerated.

Oh, and she is also the girl that told a couple of boys on the bus that she wanted them to unzip their pants so she could see their pee pee. Can you believe she is being raised this way? It breaks my heart.

Janet, maybe sending her to the office would be a good thing, especially with the way she acts and the conditions she lives in. God only knows what goes on in that house! And if the Aunt and Mother are out looking for "mushrooms" in the woods who knows what happens if they bring the "mushroom" home. There are so many children being molested today that it makes me sick...It definately sounds like something (not good) is going on with this little girl...I know teachers HAVE to report abuse if the even think it's happening...Maybe by sending her to the office they will get out of her what ever it is that is going on....If anything. And get her help.

04-29-2007, 01:22 PM

Your little red-headed 1st grader is most definitely a victim of sexual abuse. Please report what you have observed and know to CPS (Child Protective Services). Her school can help with the paperwork. It is not complicated. And she does need your help. The obnoxious behaviors she demonstrates on your bus sound like "acting out" behaviors typical of abused kids. Be a hero and report her case ASAP. You will be glad you did. And good for you to worry enough about her and post her situation. The world needs more people like you who care for kids. They are the future.

judy · 05-09-2007, 07:44 AM

Janet,

You are just what this little girl needs. She's old enough for you to talk to her. I wouldn't bring up her family, but I would discuss her behavior with her and I would also track down someone in her school or district who cares and get them together. Her family isn't going to step up, but if she's going to be a survivor, she needs to learn to get her needs met by those outside of her family. When I was doing drop-out prevention with little ones who were "at risk," I can't tell you the stories I came across. Children who are able to find adults who are caring will be able to survive. This may, in fact, be one of the reasons she is acting out on your bus. She's checking you out to see if you're going to help her. It's heartbreaking to watch, but somebody has to help these abused children, at least to the extent that you can. I had my heart broken so often just listening to some of their stories, but by just listening, I know I helped these kids. The most important thing for a child is that somebody loves them enough to listen to them and acceptm their feelings without judgement.

She's lucky she found you,

03-16-2007, 04:53 AM	#1
Janet Moderator Donating 4WT 18K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 21,624	First Grade Girl.... I have a first grade girl that rides my bus. She's a cute little redhead, but is being raised by morons. She lives with her aunt, mother and her aunt and mother's step-father, whom she calls Dad. These girls (aunt and mother) walk the county roads in search of men who will take them into the woods and well, let's say they are not hunting for mushrooms. None of them work and the place they live in smells from the road. It's horrible. They have had welfare and the Sheriff called on them many times. Anyway, I finally had to 'write-up' this little girl. Yesterday she hit a fellow student twice and this morning gave a boy the 'finger.' I just don't know what I'm going to do with her. I know it's not her fault, but I can't have her acting that way on the bus. I'm trying as gently as I can to lead her in the right direction, but with her family's influence most of the time...it's an up hill battle. I told her the next time she did these nasty things, I would have to write her up and send her to the office. She was a little afraid this morning. I hated having to do it, but she needs to understand those kind of actions will not be tolerated. Oh, and she is also the girl that told a couple of boys on the bus that she wanted them to unzip their pants so she could see their pee pee. Can you believe she is being raised this way? It breaks my heart. __________________ To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. ECCLESIASTES 3:1

03-16-2007, 05:32 AM	#2
AngieDoogles Donating 4WT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 6,509	Wow! That really is heartbreaking. It's awful that she has to grow up in that kind of environment... I'm so proud of you for trying so hard to make a positive impact in her life. Most people wouldn't even give her the time of day because of the situation she comes from. I'm glad she has you in her life...even if it is only a a few minutes every day. Good job, Janet! __________________ "Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover." ~MT

03-16-2007, 07:20 AM	#3
Tink Donating 4WT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Rural Wisconsin Posts: 3,707	Janet, you're such a caring soul to want to help this child. It's just wrong how some are forced to live. I hope something is done while there's still a chance to make a difference for her. SO sad! Bless you for trying. __________________ 'A simple way to take measure of a country is to look at how many want in.. And how many want out.' England 's Prime Minister Tony Blair'

03-16-2007, 08:36 AM	#4
rivermom Donating 4WT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Tontitown, Arkansas Posts: 2,475	Janet - You are doing the right thing by not accepting her behavior during your presence. This is the responsible thing to do under the situation. Plus you trying to help her is positive and holds probably a stronger influence then you realize or give yourself credit for. It's very unfortunate that she is subjected to such an upbringing as she is. It sounds like she definitely needs some better role models in her home life. __________________ ~_/> , /\/\ ,,, Sheryl When I grow up I want to be a horse whisperer!

05-22-2007, 05:37 AM	#10
Janet Moderator Donating 4WT 18K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 21,624	Just saw on the news last night that 2 kingergartners (in Indianapolis) were caught in the bushes doing 'sexual' things. It didn't elaborate. They did say it wasn't the first case of kindergartners being caught in the Indianapolis school system. I just can't believe it.... they are in KINDERGARTEN!!! __________________ To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. ECCLESIASTES 3:1

03-16-2007, 10:02 AM	#5
highlans Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: london uk Posts: 462	Sorry but how old is first grade?

04-25-2007, 04:38 AM	#8
IamTam Guest Posts: n/a	Hi I am new her today and just read your post....It is just terrible the way some parents bring up there children these days! And people wonder why the jails are so overcrowded and that there are all kinds of kids in gangs and stuff. It all starts at home. What a shame, and I really feel for you for having to deal with this on the bus. My mom was a school bus driver for 25 years and I would monitor on her bus of "troubled" kids. Its unbelievable some of the stuff you see and hear. After monitoring for a few years.....that was it for me. I had to get out of it...I never EVER wanted to be near a school bus again. God Bless You! Good luck. Tami

05-21-2007, 04:08 PM	#9
Jessica R Guest Posts: n/a	Oh, Janet, this story just broke my heart. This poor little girl, honestly, getting the attention of getting in trouble may get her the help she needs. I have a kindergartener and a 1st grader, and honestly was horrified that this girl has actual knowledge of these things. This is so horrible, some people shouldn't be allowed to raise children. Poor child.

05-22-2007, 08:15 AM	#12
judy Donating 4WT Yakker Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Denver, NY Posts: 8,097	When I taught younger kids, they weren't sexually active, but now I hear that in NYC, it's terrible - the things they do and what comes out of their mouths! They're only children - this is directly from their home environment, and all of these groups yelling about the use of certain words, political correctness, etc. aren't even beginning to address the real issue. Where are our values? I know my kids, who I loved, and who were nice kids, if they found a dollar, they immediately kept it. I would never do that and they teased me about it, but I hope some of my old-fashioned values rubbed off on them. They got to know my values really well and how much I loved them. I think they learned something from that, because they treated me so well. What was funny was that they thought I was "cool." Actually I very old school with my values. I really do worry about them. Society is not in a good place right now and they don't have it easy. __________________ *Judy*

04-29-2007, 01:22 PM	#14
Pokey Runner Guest Posts: n/a	Your little red-headed 1st grader is most definitely a victim of sexual abuse. Please report what you have observed and know to CPS (Child Protective Services). Her school can help with the paperwork. It is not complicated. And she does need your help. The obnoxious behaviors she demonstrates on your bus sound like "acting out" behaviors typical of abused kids. Be a hero and report her case ASAP. You will be glad you did. And good for you to worry enough about her and post her situation. The world needs more people like you who care for kids. They are the future.

05-09-2007, 07:44 AM	#15
judy Donating 4WT Yakker Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Denver, NY Posts: 8,097	Janet, You are just what this little girl needs. She's old enough for you to talk to her. I wouldn't bring up her family, but I would discuss her behavior with her and I would also track down someone in her school or district who cares and get them together. Her family isn't going to step up, but if she's going to be a survivor, she needs to learn to get her needs met by those outside of her family. When I was doing drop-out prevention with little ones who were "at risk," I can't tell you the stories I came across. Children who are able to find adults who are caring will be able to survive. This may, in fact, be one of the reasons she is acting out on your bus. She's checking you out to see if you're going to help her. It's heartbreaking to watch, but somebody has to help these abused children, at least to the extent that you can. I had my heart broken so often just listening to some of their stories, but by just listening, I know I helped these kids. The most important thing for a child is that somebody loves them enough to listen to them and acceptm their feelings without judgement. She's lucky she found you, __________________ *Judy*

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