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03-17-2007, 08:18 PM
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Divorce after 2 years?! :(
My hubby was at the mall tonight and ran into an old friend of his (who is an acquaintance of mine) and he found out that she is getting a divorce after only 2 years. I was so sad! They never really struck me as the "perfect" couple and they didn't seem to have ANYTHING in common, but I just never expected someone I know to get divorced after such a short marriage. I guess it's better that they are getting divorced now before there are kids and things get really complicated, but still...it's sad!
We are going to have her over and try to cheer her up. Any ideas or advice? Thanks in advance...I just don't know what to say or do to help...  
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03-18-2007, 02:57 AM
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I probably wouldn't say a whole lot...just listen. She doesn't need judgements or bad mouthing her soon-to-be ex. Let her do that.....they just may get back together someday...who knows
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03-18-2007, 07:52 AM
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Janet is right the best thing you can do is listen. Make her laugh. Maybe invite her out somewhere with you guys & rent or bring a movie in case she doesn't feel like going out. if you can, maybe bring her a "relaxation kit" (Bubble bath, lotion, candles, anything like that). Encourage her to concentrate on herself now she deserves it.
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03-18-2007, 12:47 PM
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That is too bad about the ending of their marriage. This sort of situation can be uncomfortable for many.
With her invite, make some snacky foods and lemonade or something. Food is ALWAYS a great distraction during those "moments of akwardnes". As others said, just listen. Be positive in conversation and just keep the chat simple or whatever. If your energy is happy and positive surely it will be felt by your friend. Maybe give her a greeting card to let her know you will be there if she ever needs an ear.
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03-18-2007, 12:55 PM
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Its very sweet of you to invite her over, and letting her know you are there for her. That on its own is a huge comfort for her. Best to just listen, and let her do the talking.
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