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04-07-2007, 06:03 AM
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husband's brother is coming
Ok it's not exactly a vent but I thought it fits here better than anywhere else. My husband's younger but bigger brother is coming in today. I have only met him in person once. He was quiet & it was brief but he seemed ok. This was 3 years ago. He is always nice on the phone but quick & to the point. I feel awful though. My husband adores this man (they are only like 18 months apart). I don't like him not because of what I have seen but because of the stories I have heard. He did take some of my husbands things that he had planned on going back to get when he moved in with me which was the first thing that I didn't like about him. The stories I have heard from their family makes him sound like a macho, male shovinist pig type. I want to atleast get along with him for my hubby. Who do I put the feelings I have about him aside and be "nice" without seeming fake? One of the things I hate is when people pretend to be or feel something they aren't or don't. I don't want to do this but want my hubby to be happy at the same time. any ideas?
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04-07-2007, 07:10 AM
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I think first of all, try to give him a chance. You haven't actually met him or gotten to know him so he may turn out to be completely different than you expect. And if he is someone you don't really like, you can be nice without being fake. Just don't try to overdo it. Does that make sense? It's hard to explain what I'm trying to say...
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04-07-2007, 07:14 AM
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You need to make your own decision about this guy, and not let others influence you. There must be something really great about this guy for your husband to care about him so much, besides being brothers. Just be yourself with no pre-conceived notions and you'll be just fine.
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04-07-2007, 07:36 AM
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I always find if I open my heart, I can find good in most anyone.
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04-07-2007, 07:54 AM
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Ditto what Janet said.
You don't have to love him, just treat him as you would any new friend of the family and let it grow from there.
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. He also may be going to Iraq soon so this is a great time for him to see her & for my husband to have time with him.
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